Deborah Moggach Quotes

Things that are done, it is needless to speak about...things that are past, it is needless to blame.

I had to learn to forgive. I couldn't sleep at night. I got ulcers. I had to let go, to let God deal with it. No one wants to be mad in their own house. I didn't want to be angry my whole life. It takes so much energy out of you to be mean.

There comes a certain point in life when you have to stop blaming other people for how you feel or the misfortunes in your life. You can't go through life obsessing about what might have been.

I would have thought that I would have become one of those parents - just because it's my nature to be such a perfectionist - that anything falling short, I would have seen as a failure. But something has happened to me over the past few years - it's not Zen, believe me, I'm not at all Zen - but I'm so appreciative of even the chaos.

It takes two to make a relationship, but only one to screw it up.

In terms of relationships, I've had two failures, although I don't like to call them failures; they are self learning, and I cannot say I regret any of my relationships. I've always said that I am a much loved woman.

People go forward in life. Bitterness and grudges and resentments only poison it.

Love is kind, right? It's not about calling someone out on every little thing you feel.

We all know in our hearts that forgiveness is the right thing; it's just a matter of being inspired to reach that place.

If a relationship is going to work, it will require compromise and, even then, it is not always going to end the way you want it to.

One must learn to forgive and not to hold a hostile, bitter attitude of mind, which offends those about us and prevents us from enjoying ourselves. One must recognize human shortcomings and adjust himself to them rather than to be constantly finding fault with them.

I've been married for 49 years. Where have I failed?

Your actions are your own. Your choices are your own. Each of us carries a burden of guilt for decisions made or not made. You can let that rule your whole life or you can put it behind you and move on. Only a madman lets jealousy determine the course of his existence. Only a weak man blames others for his own errors.

What do you get out of hating people, out of having this bitterness in your heart always?

Forgiveness belongs to those who know how to love in the first place.

What I regret most in my life are failures of kindness.

Happy are those who find fault with themselves instead of finding fault with others.

One has no right to form ideals of people, and then, because they don't justify them, become bitter.

If it isn't a success, that still wouldn't be grounds for divorce.

But every person has to learn to accept what has happened in the past. Without bitterness. Or there is no point in continuing with life.

And if I'm not forgiven, then at least I'm understood.

I think marriage is dangerous. The idea of two people trying to possess each other is wrong. I don't think the flare of love lasts. Your mind rather than your emotions must answer for the success of matrimony. It must be friendship - a calm companionship which can last through the years.

Let us not be needlessly bitter: certain failures are sometimes fruitful.

Forgiveness flounders because I exclude the enemy from the community of humans and myself from the community of sinners.

You can run away from home But you can't run away from your pain I sit here alone There's always someone else to blame.