Michel de Montaigne Quotes

When you see yourself doing something badly and nobody's bothering to tell you anymore, that's a very bad place to be. Your critics are the ones telling you they still love you and care.

The boldest stroke and best act of friendship is not to disclose our own failings to a friend, but to show him his own.

We love to receive praise, but usually we're not certain what message, precisely, we should take from it. On the other hand, when someone points out our flaws, we realize immediately that something needs to change.

People tend to scare you pointing out your shortfalls. If you voluntarily admit your faults, then people won't have anything to point out.

I learned early on not to listen to either critique - the people who love you or the people who don't like you.

We all come to the point where it's time to get yourself straight, as a businesswoman, a mother, whatever you are in life. It's tough love but it's also being real with yourself. It's important to take those rose-coloured glasses off and see what's going on.

My friend is he who will tell me my faults in private.

Few people have the wisdom to prefer the criticism that would do them good, to the praise that deceives them.

At the end of the day it's going to hurt your feelings if someone says something mean about you, but I've learned to take a step back and ask myself if it's really going to affect me, if this person who I'm never going to know or meet doesn't like me - and it doesn't.

I need good friends who can say, 'I love you to death, but you look terrible in that, and you need to change right now.'

You know, my family and friends have never been yes-men: 'Yes, you're doing the right thing, you're always right.' No, they tell me when I'm wrong, and that's why I've been able to stay who I am and stay humble.

If you take everything personally and to heart, it will tear you apart. Take criticism, learn, adjust, and move on.

I will make it a point to voice my opinions. But if I am at fault, I will also apologise.

Don't tell friends their social faults; they will cure the fault and never forgive you.

If you feel compelled to respond every time you're criticized it reveals just how much you've built your identity on being right.

Get your enemy to read your works in order to mend them, for your friend is so much your second self that he will judge too like you.

Such honesty comes with a price, but when you get past the hurt and shock of realizing that you're faulted and frequently wrong, you also realize that you are really loved and respected for who you are, and you become a better person.

One of life's joys was to have friends who gave you reality checks...who would call you on your crap before it rose so high you drowned in it.

Tis a great confidence in a friend to tell him your faults; greater to tell him his.

One of the surest evidences of friendship that one individual can display to another is telling him gently of a fault. If any other can excel it, it is listening to such a disclosure with gratitude, and amending the error.

Your harshest critic is always going to be yourself. Don't ignore that critic but don't give it more attention than it deserves.

The director calmed me down and told me I was being too hard on myself. He went on to say that I wasn't quite as bad as I thought, but needed to tone things down a bit.

There aren't really many compliments flying around with me and my friends. It's a lot of tough love. But you know, that love is there, and if you need to have a serious conversation, you just gotta wait for the right time to do it.

The practice mirror is to be used for the correction of faults, not for a love affair, and the figure you watch should not become your dearest friend.

The only players I hurt with my words are the ones who have an inflated opinion of their ability. I can't worry about that.