Tullian Tchividjian Quotes

I have a hard time with any sort of criticism; not because I have some huge ego or anything like that.

Some people, when they get criticism, they shy away from it.

If you're upset by something I said, you have bigger problems than you think.

Remember that when criticism is difficult to accept, there is probably some truth to it.

Love never hurts anybody. And if you feel you have been hurt by love, it is something else in you, not your loving quality that feels hurt.

I can take critism, but if it's like 'I don't like you' then I want to know why people don't like me. Why do you hate me? What have I done?

I have only got down on to paper, really, three types of people: the person I think I am, the people who irritate me, and the people I'd like to be.

I'm not critic-proof, and I still take it personally, but I take it less personally now.

What I do is sometimes - at least in Germany - met with wounding campaigns. I always face the question: should I grow myself a thick skin and ignore it, or should I let myself be wounded? I've decided to be wounded, since, if I grew a thick skin, there are other things I wouldn't feel any more.

To me, constructive criticism is when people take ownership of their ideas. That's why I don't listen to anything that's anonymous. But it's hard; when there's something hurtful out there, I still want to read it over and over and memorize it and explain my point of view to the person.

When something's wrong, even though you're the one doing it, you shouldn't feel defensive about it. It's hard because you have to protect yourself as a person in your life, but you can't protect yourself as an actor. You have to just take criticism.

When you're younger, you do take things personally.

I used to take it much more to heart. Now I realise that negativity has almost everything to do with the person delivering it and very little to do with you yourself.

If you take everything personally and to heart, it will tear you apart. Take criticism, learn, adjust, and move on.

When you see yourself doing something badly and nobody's bothering to tell you anymore, that's a very bad place to be. Your critics are the ones telling you they still love you and care.

Don't take anything personally. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. Their point of view and opinion come from all the programming they received growing up. When you take things personally, you feel offended and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflict. You make something big out of something so little because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong.

If you're putting somebody down, you're doing it because you're just seeing a part of yourself that you don't like. That's all that is.

You have to recognize that deep within your soul, you know who you are - and let [the criticism] go right by you. If you're reacting to it, you're letting it get to you.

All you need to know and observe in yourself is this: Whenever you feel superior or inferior to anyone, that's the ego in you.

Thank everyone who calls out your faults, your anger, your impatience, your egotism; do this consciously, voluntarily.

The thing you resist is the thing you need to hear the most.

It's kind of hard get outside of your own frame of reference. To one degree or another, we all go through our breakdowns and we can recognize our lives as a path to awakening or not. We can take our breakdowns as a way to sensitize us or as an excuse to blind and dull ourselves.

There's a lot of me in it. But the character is more egotistical. I'm also egotistical, but not the way the character is. This guy is successful, he has everything, but his wife has left him. The most important value - love - is missing. What is wrong with this institution called 'marriage'? What is wrong with this institution called 'the pursuit of happiness'?

You are not your idea, and if you identify too closely with your ideas, you will take offense when they are challenged.

The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.