Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

How well we have learned to let go

What i’m saying is, my friends, one ought to be able to let go. If a path does not please us, instead of insisting on going that specific way, of making our selfishness the guide, we ought to forsake. The books we cannot write, the films we cannot shoot, the projects we cannot develop, the jobs we cannot pursue and the people who no longer love us. Being able to let go, at times, is the most beautiful of all!

Never say of anything I have lost it, only say that I have given it back.

When I finish a job, I surrender it completely. I have to, because after that, it really is out of my hands.

There's a victory in letting go of your expectations.

I made up my mind that I would hold onto nothing, that I would expect nothing.

Things happen or they don't happen, that's all. Nothing is accomplished by sweat and struggle. Nearly everything which we call life is just insomnia, an agony because we've lost the habit of falling asleep. We don't know how to let go. We're like a Jack-in-the-box perched on top of a spring and the more we struggle the harder it is to get back in the box.

Letting go. Everyone talks about it like it's the easiest thing. Unfurl your fingers one by one until your hand is open.

Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.

I’m not sentimental about anything. Life flows by, and you flow with it or you don’t. Move on and move out.

Even as I hold you, I am letting you go.

Because I do not hope to turn again Because I do not hope Because I do not hope to turn Desiring this man's gift and that man's scope I no longer strive to strive towards such things (Why should the aged eagle stretch its wings?) Why should I mourn The vanished power of the usual reign?

If you were wise enough to know that this life would consist mostly of letting go of things you wanted, then why not get good at the letting go, rather than the trying to have?

Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible-controlling that which we cannot-and instead, focus on what is possible-which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.

Letting go is not the same as aversion, struggling to get rid of something. We cannot genuinely let go of what we resist. What we resist and fear secretly follows us even as we push it away. To let go of fear or trauma, we need to acknowledge just how it is. We need to feel it fully and accept that it is so. It is as it is. Letting go begins with letting be.

Never say about anything, "I have lost it," but only "I have given it back." Is your child dead? It has been given back. Is your wife dead? She has been returned.

To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own.

What you cannot control, you must accept.

The dungeon image helped. "You need to let Maximus go," I stated, my voice stronger now. "No. Wine?

let it go -- the smashed word broken open vow or the oath cracked length wise -- let it go it was sworn to go let them go -- the truthful liars and the false fair friends and the boths and neithers -- you must let them go they were born to go let all go -- the big small middling tall bigger really the biggest and all things -- let all go dear so comes love

What it is forbidden to be put right becomes lighter by acceptance.

Control the things you can control. As for the rest - God bless it all.

I believe that you are only in control of so much. So whatever you are not in control of you can't worry about.

If you get too attached to how you want it to come out the other side, you freeze. I try to trust that it will work out in the end.

Renunciation remains sorrow, though a sorrow borne willingly.