Byron Katie Quotes

When it's your own fault, things hurt worse than when someone else is to blame.

I’ve blamed her for all of this, for leaving, for ruining me. And maybe that was the seed of it, but from that one little seed grew this tumor of a flowering plant. And I’m the one who nurtures it. I water it. I care for it.I nibble from its poison berries. I let it wrap around my neck, choking the air right out of me. I’ve done that. All by myself. All to myself.

People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.

Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy.

The keenest sorrow is to recognize ourselves as the sole cause of all our adversities.

What's wrong with being angry? There's a lot of stuff to be angry about. If you're angry, anger covers pain. I don't know if you can truly deal with pain.

I never hurt anybody; I only hurt myself and my family. I never did anything mean to anybody, I was just mean to myself.

To be lonely is to feel unwanted and unloved, and therefor unloveable. Loneliness is a taste of death. No wonder some people who are desperately lonely lose themselves in mental illness or violence to forget the inner pain.

It is a painful thing to look at your own trouble and know that you yourself and no one else has made it.

If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.

She went to the window seat and sat there, sniffling, hating them all, and herself most of all. It was all her fault, everything bad that had happened.

Self-hatred is worse than loneliness.

We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming - or damning.

It's not wrong to be upset. It's not wrong to cry. It's not wrong to want attention. It's not even wrong to scream or throw a fit. What is wrong is to keep it all inside. What is wrong is to blame and punish yourself for simply being human. What is wrong is to never be heard and to be alone in your pain. Share it. Let it out.

Pain in the present is experienced as hurt. Pain in the past is remembered as anger. Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety. Unexpressed anger, redirected against yourself and held within, is called guilt. The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.

I'm so tired I never want to wake up again. But I've figured out now that it was never them that made me feel that way. It was just me, all along.

The only person I have hurt is myself.

Sometimes I think it's a shame, when I get feeling better when I'm feeling no pain.

My schedule for today lists a six-hour self-accusatory depression.

If you allow your mind to carp at all and sundry, it will turn against itself: the majority of our sorrows are self-inflicted.

My miseries have always come out of my own flesh, never from any burden Jesus has laid on me.

I am the perpetrator of my suffering - but only all of it.

What I've learned about being angry with people is that it generally hurts you more than it hurts them.

No one can hurt me - that's my job.

Humans punish themselves endlessly for not being what they believe they should be. They become very self-abusive, and they use other people to abuse themselves as well.