Gary Chapman Quotes

Everybody has a dysfunctional family.

Mary Trump's 'Too Much and Never Enough: How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man' tells a remarkable story, the broad strokes of which many already knew. Mary Trump offers a tale of what she calls 'malignant' family dysfunction, and how it produced a malignantly dysfunctional president.

We live in our myths, we only endure reality.

I'm not crazy, but it's a crazy life. I was raised in a crazy family and it took 31 years to get the crazy out of me.

The threat to men of great dignity, privilege and pretense is not from the radicals they revile; it is from accepting their own myth. Exposure to reality remains the nemesis of the great -- a little understood thing.

You think we're a family,' Cody said, turning back. 'You think we're some jolly, situation-comedy family when we're in particles, torn apart, torn all over the place, and our mother was a witch.

Everything and everybody is sooner or later identified, defined, and put in perspective. The truth as always is simultaneously better and worse than what the popular myth-making has it.

When your parents split up, it's impossible to delude yourself about fairytale romance and happy endings.

Why is the awfulness of families such a popular reason for starting another?

Everyone has got some preconceptions, but you have to readjust them in front of reality. Reality has the last word.

We always know when we are awake that we cannot be dreaming even though when actually dreaming we feel all this may be real.

Are you sure/That we are awake? It seems to me/That yet we sleep, we dream

We have to face the unpleasant as well as the affirmative side of the human story, including our own story as a nation, our own stories of our peoples. We have got to have the ugly facts in order to protect us from the official view of reality. Otherwise, we are squeezed empty and filled with what other people want us to think and feel and experience.

I believe in facing reality. But only because I don't like turning my back on it.

I avoided reality for most of my life. But once you deal with it, it's kind of cool.

I've not seen an effective manager or leader who can't spend some fraction of time down in the trenches... If they don't do that they get out of touch with reality, and their whole thought and management process becomes abstract and disconnected.

If you're ever in doubt, throw a pepper in the air. If it fails to come down, you have gone mad, so don't trust in anything.

Grace is the most dangerous, expectation-wre cking, smile-creating, counterintuitiv e reality there is.

You cannot be naïve about evil. You cannot be naïve to the reality that there are human beings and human situations which have totally identified with the dark side of reality. They are malicious. Realism teaches you to put up appropriate boundaries so that people can't do any more evil than possible. But that doesn't mean you do evil back to them.

People say things like "it wasn't supposed to go this way" and "this isn't what I wanted." They're just making noise. There's no such thing as "supposed to," and what you want doesn't matter. All that matters is what happened.

Reality, if rightly interpreted, is grander than fiction.

A myth is more powerful - and more lasting - than reality.

Just as if you do a mash-up of reality from the point of view of African Americans in this country, you're going to end up with something that will say, "This is Black Lives Matter." It's not that people necessarily have started out from that premise. But if you're looking at reality, that will be the result because that is reality.

Never turn your back on reality. It surrounds you.

You decide whether you look at your reality or live pretending these feelings don't exist.