Sue Monk Kidd Quotes

But I think that sensitivity is also a good counsellor when it comes to enforcing one's interests.

This applies to many film jobs, not just editing: half the job is doing the job, and the other half is finding ways to get along with people and tuning yourself in to the delicacy of the situation.

It's a difficult question of relations between people.

We all experience power struggles in our lives - at the workplace, with our friends, in our love lives. In a way, we're all politicians.

When you're trying to persuade people, more often than not, they feel you're being pushy. When you focus on influencing them, they're much less defensive and open to hearing what you have to say.

If you need something from somebody always give that person a way to hand it to you.

I've spent my life navigating through sensitive issues. Not wanting to upset people.

Number one, that it is smart to communicate and negotiate with your enemy instead of just waging war with bombs and weapons of mass destruction.

I've grown up a little bit. I understand the importance of the negotiation. It is a collective act.

The most important thing in an argument, next to being right, is to leave an escape hatch for your opponent, so that he can gracefully swing over to your side without too much apparent loss of face.

Work is a different type of pursuit than relationships. You can't take the skills that you know that have gotten you into that great school or into that great job and apply them to your relationships.

I do believe that in order to be a successful negotiator that as a diplomat, you have to be able to put yourself into the other person's shoes. Unless you can understand what is motivating them, you are never going to be able to figure out how to solve a particular problem.

You can be happy, or you can be right. If you want to be part of a couple and win every argument, you're in trouble.

I have a talent for dealing with difficult men.

You do have to do business with and to try to influence people you don't agree with, or find disagreeable, so it's important to stress that balance.

I can do the PR thing until the cows come home. That's my nature. I never want to upset anybody.

Soft words and hard arguments.

Hot heads and cold hearts never solved anything.

Don't beg, don't threaten and don't assume you're always right.

What matters is not whether one talks to adversaries but what one says to them, which strategies of engagement are set in place, and how competently they are executed.

International negotiation has a nasty tendency to remind its practitioners that the laws of gravity affect them, too, and that international life is a two-way street in which one may have to give in order to get.

You have to negotiate with people who don’t trust you and vica versa. You have to be very careful but you can’t be paralyzed.

In politics, you must learn to say 'no' without offending people. That is an art that one must master: to satisfy a person even when you have to say 'no' to him.

You gotta get into some confrontations sometimes to get the right result on the floor, but I think the bulk of our membership wants us to work out problems before a bill comes to the floor.

Diplomacy is listening to what the other guy needs. Preserving your own position, but listening to the other guy. You have to develop relationships with other people so when the tough times come, you can work together.