John Grant Quotes

I've been in many relationships in my life and learned a lot from them, good and bad.

Some relationships get easier as you get older, depending on what sort of person you are. I don't think I've got any better at them.

Every relationship you have, you're learning and growing and taking something from that.

When it comes to relationships, it's nice to have something that is your own and not everyone else's. That's not part of my job. I never stood up on a podium and said, 'Vote for me - I'm perfect. I'll be this for you and never do anything wrong.'

I hope it's enabling me to deal with another human being who's more important to me than I am.

If you just stop and think, baby, honey, love is a funny thing. Whatever you put in, that's what you expect to gain.

If someone had told me years ago that sharing a sense of humour was so vital to partnerships, I could have avoided a lot of sex!

I think as humans we do want to control our relationships, and you can't. It's probably better that you can't. That wouldn't be a real relationship, and we'd never learn and grow.

My husband and I get along great. We're both introverts, and it's hard to make new friends.

All relationships are a learning experience, even ones you continue to be in. If you don't see them as that, then that's a problem.

Relationships are the hallmark of the mature person.

As I get older I realize what qualities are important in love and what suits me. And what I won't settle for.

I know that in my own personal life, the people who I have dated who are funny can get away with a lot more than the people who aren't.

To be honest, relationships with the opposite sex are the most challenging things I've done. You lose your compass, gravity changes, you don't know what's up or down, you're trying to figure it out. You're trying to make everybody happy, including yourself, and it's just... it's humbled me.

I know that sounds almost horribly cheesy, but that is what has to happen if you're gonna make a relationship work for a long time: You have to keep learning new things that are interesting about this person or having them catch you off guard and have these little moments of intense appreciation.

Whenever I'm talking about relationships, it's always at least three things. It's my relationship with myself, my relationship with God or an idea, and then usually somebody, a real person. I try to operate on all three levels at the same time, and it's difficult, but I never want to have a break-up song or something like that.

Anyone who has been through failed relationships - even people in successful relationships - understand that you gain perspective about what is important to you.

Getting married and really digging in with another human being can point out your greatest strengths and your greatest weaknesses.

I had a different perception of what a relationship or love is like. I was all giddy-headed and fairytale about it in my head, but it's so different. There's a lot of restraint that you've got to have, compromising in certain situations - and you've got to have a lot of respect.

I'd like to think that I'm getting slightly more mature as time goes on, but I don't know if my fiancee would necessarily agree.

Marriage is wild. I thought it was this perfect land of happiness and joy. Wrong! After you say you do, you don't for a long time.

Fear is the great enemy of intimacy. Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.

I wouldn't change being married. It was good for me, and I was happy for a period of time, and I learned a lot about myself.

A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.

It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.