Kelley Armstrong Quotes

I know how to stand up for myself. I say no when I want to, yes when I want to, and no one can really change my mind.

I think I'm a living embodiment of, 'Don't try to push me around or squash me,' whether its how I talk to a record label or in my relationships.

I never allow myself to be pressured.

My advice to women in general: Even if you're doing a nine-to-five job, treat yourself like a boss. Not arrogant, but be sure of what you want - and don't allow people to run anything for you without your knowledge.

You have a right to say no. Most of us have very weak and flaccid 'no' muscles. We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it's our choice. Your 'no' muscle has to be built up to get to a place where you can say, 'I don't care if that's what you want. I don't want that. No.'

I can't tell anybody else how to run their life or their business, but I really believe I've got a good bead on myself.

We have to not be afraid to say no.

I was one of those people at one point who was scared to put my foot down and show where the boundaries were. For me, it's really important to stand your ground and know exactly what you are, where you wanna be, and what you're doing, or else people are gonna try you.

I don't feel like I'm influenced by anybody, but I feel I'm definitely becoming more a leader.

I've just learned how to put things into perspective and how to not be afraid of change while making decisions for myself. Also, asking for what I want and demanding what I need and being more confident in who I am and my ability.

I say 'no' a lot. And if I knew how easy it was to say no, I would have started saying it earlier.

I know what is best for me.

You are here and you are allowed to be here and therefore you are allowed to make decisions about yourself and the people in your life; rather than sort of backing up and making sure it's okay with everybody at every turn.

You have to know what is right for you and go after it regardless of what others say.

Whoever will be free must make himself free. Freedom is no fairy gift to fall into a man's lap. What is freedom? To have the will to be responsible for one's self.

The only power you have is the word no.

A real woman is someone who knows what she wants. If you want to stay home, that's fine, but you have to be clear-eyed.

I learned something from that. If someone asks me something that I really don't want to do, I say no. I have to trust that. And I'm not afraid to talk money.

I've always told Will, 'You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be okay.' Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I'm here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be, and that's not for me to do for him. Or vice versa.

I just have a way about me where people know that they don't tell me what to do, they kind of just wait for me to do it.

I had to learn not to let anyone push me around, to be brave and to say things I knew might make people mad.

Not 100 percent of the time, but I feel like I'm good at being direct. I know what I want, and I feel like I can tell people, 'I want this; I don't want this. I want you; I don't want you. I hope for this, and this is right, and this is wrong for me.'

I'm going to stand up for what I need to do, not what everybody else wants me to do.

You always knows what's best for you.

I know what I need. I don't want people to tell me what I need.