Andrew Solomon Quotes

I don't think closeted homosexual morticians have the market cornered on self-loathing or sense of shame.

For some reason, I was deeply ashamed of the theater early on. I think it had to do with this growing sense I was gay, although I couldn't have put a word to it back then.

I spent 24 years in the closet wanting to talk so desperately about who I was and what I am but too afraid to.

What love life? I'm not gay, but I might as well be.

I am not in the closet. I am not coming out of the closet. I am not gay.

I think my friend Jeff is gay. I don't know - I'm so bad with names.

So let me be clear: I'm proud to be gay, and I consider being gay among the greatest gifts God has given me.

Trust me, if I were gay I'd be getting more action than I'm getting now.

As far as I was concerned, either I was a homosexual or I wasn't, so making films would change nothing.

When I was I younger I didn't want to be gay. Not because I was scared of the sexual thing; I didn't want to be a clone. Now this was in the late '70s.

I was a closet straight. I think I wanted to be gay because I thought it was arty and interesting. And also, I was phenomenally shy with girls.

I knew that I was different when I was six years old, but it wasn't until I got to about 10 or 11 that I realised I was a gay man.

I'm not ashamed to be gay.

Being gay facilitated my capacity for shame. As a child, I carried around this thing that gradually became this big dark secret. When I came out in a newspaper interview at 30 I was expecting the reaction the following day to be like the climax of 'Dead Poets Society,' but actually no one really cared.

When people have asked me in the past if I'm gay, I've said "I'm not gay, but I'm festive."

You can't just go gay, its not like buying a ladder.

A Pakistan businessman is claiming that John Walker Lindh is gay and that he was his lover. Say what you will about Lindh, but when this guy goes to play for the other team - he goes all the way ... So Lindh may be both a terrorist and a gay man. That may be John Ashcroft's worst nightmare.

I grew up around gay people my entire life, basically, that’s possibly why I’m quite camp, and some people think I’m gay when I meet them, which I think is awesome. It’s always good to keep them guessing.

I am not gay. I never have been gay.

It takes some intelligence and insight to figure out you're gay and then a tremendous amount of balls to live it and live it proudly.

I knew right away that Rock Hudson was gay when he did not fall in love with me

I was trying to convince myself I could learn to be gay - but no. That's one of my great regrets.

I did not have a homosexual relationship with a man in Denver.

There is also somehow the idea that this gay thing is all just about indulgence in carnal pleasure. When I was twenty and felt that nobody could know I was gay, I was having sex with strangers in public parks. I don't think it was evil exactly, but it wasn't so great either. There was nobody particularly benefiting from it, except, I suppose, to the extent that it gave some pleasure to me and perhaps whomever I was with.

Ang [Lee] gave us a lot of books about cowboys who had been gay or stories about it and all that stuff. And I just talked to a lot of my friends - who [was] their first, particularly same-sex, first situation. That was fascinating to me - trying to learn what that was in a certain period of time. Certain age. The secrecy involved in it. All those things.