Rain Dove Quotes

I spent my whole life trying to play the games males play.

But alas, I'd have to find a way to be opinionated without being too opinionated, authoritative without being a bitch about it, smart without being elitist, fair without being a pushover. If the boyfriends of my youth found me too authoritative when I should have been cheering on the sidelines as they kicked and tossed and smacked balls toward the vanguard, the male colleagues of my adulthood kept reminding me of my lack of authority as they unconsciously displayed theirs. I was always failing someone's standards of legitimacy, as a girlfriend, as a producer of opinions. It was an eternal no-win.

I don't think I could keep my position as a well-standing man in the world if I thought there were roles for men and women.

You should never be put into a mold based on your gender.

What works for a man, still does not work for a woman - both in terms of how they see themselves and how we see them.

I think the fallacy is to think that Women's Liberation meant that men and women would become interchangeable. That has not happened, and most men and women would not want it to happen.

Some boys accepted me, some didn't. And my family had comments made to them. Brazil is still a very macho society, and sports are mainly for boys, so people would say to them: 'What is this girl doing? Why is she always out there in the soccer games with the boys?'

They had always told me that I wrote like a man.

Society says that men need to be bigger and stronger, and they must protect their women and so on.

In the end, I do think it's insulting to men and women to insist that they fit a certain profile. I never understood that.

Housework is the only activity at which men are allowed to be consistently inept because they are thought to be so competent at everything else.

Especially with girls, people always want to put them in little brackets.

Many societies have educated their male children on the simple device of teaching them not to be women.

Even nowadays a man can't step up and kill a woman without feeling just a bit unchivalrous.

'Man up' is a sexist term that should be retired along with all the other gender-based imperious imperatives.

Both men and women are really vast and boundless and yet in many films we're told that they're not. We're told they can only be one thing - like handsome and charming and that's it. Nothing more.

Why can't a woman be more like a man?

I've always been told that women know everything. Is that not accurate?

In our civilization, men are afraid that they will not be men enough and women are afraid that they might be considered only women.

I even felt like I liked guys better than women - that men were relevant and women weren't. It took me a while to realize I'd been socialized to have a slighting view of my own gender.

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

You would never say to a man, 'do you like playing strong men?' You just wouldn't say that.

I think it's time we all agree that gender stereotypes are simply the confabulation of our own mind.

There are certain expectations placed on writers if other people have put a value on their gender. I'm aware of the hundreds of tiny differences that happen when people are seeing your gender before they see something else.

People try to make women a very specific thing so that we like them.