Marta Kristen Quotes

How hard it is to have the beautiful interdependence of marriage and yet be strong in oneself alone.

A band is like a marriage, and if you're in a marriage with someone, and you lose yourself in that marriage, the relationship is over, really.

Ideally, couples need three lives; one for him, one for her, and one for them together.

Too many people get married and lose themselves. You have to fiercely hold on to who you are, and you need to celebrate that in the other person because that's what made you fall in love in the first place.

Perhaps my problem in marriage - and it is the problem of many women - was to want both intimacy and independence. It is a difficult line to walk, yet both needs are important to a marriage.

Marriage changes everything. I want full control over my life. When you share your life with somebody else, you can't have full control. You have to give a lot of control away. You share each other's lives.

Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone.

It's easy to get wrapped up in sharing everyday life with a partner. It's fun to get lost in love and romance. It's the best. But holding on to yourself while doing that is the most important thing.

I'm always battling how to be in a relationship while simultaneously maintaining my independence and my career.

The wonderful thing about my husband is that we are very good at being independent.

I found it an interesting portrait of a marriage in exploring notions of how one partner supports the other, whilst not jeopardizing the greater good - which is the family.

But I believe that there are marriages where you can have your pool table and she can have her scrapbooking room or garden or whatever it is. But when everyone has what they want, it's not funny. There's no conflict.

It's important in a relationship to have moments when you do your own thing.

My husband had a very strong identity and was successful in his life. Thank God for that. There's no way I can control him. I wouldn't stay married to him if I felt I could. I can readily take my business personality into the home. But he forces me to be a partner rather than the boss.

In our relationship, we don't have that situation. I don't require what he needs, and he doesn't require what I need. I know what I do; I have an amazing life that nobody knows about.

I have a lady, she's a great lady. I love her a lot, she loves me. We're on the same page. Whenever that day happens when we're not on the same page we'll move forward with it. We're interested in having our lives be our lives right now and not a third person's vis-a-vis marriage and whatever that means.

The marital couple is not an independent entity with a mind and heart of its own, but an association of two individuals each with a separate intellectual and emotional makeup.

The best relationship is one that does not foster too much independence nor too much dependence, but exists in the healthy interdependence zone.

I don't think any relation can work if one dominates. It has to be an equal relation for it to be successful and happy.

One of the biggest things I tell women is not to lose themselves in a relationship. If you're willing to alter yourself to find somebody, it'll never work.

I think both husband and wife should have busy minds, not see too much of each other, but not too little either: just get it right. If both are healthy in their heads and satisfied with their day's work, the partnership works.

We have this rule in our marriage, there's no such thing as 50/50. Somebody is always putting in more.

The writing partnership is a good collaboration for the same reason the marriage works, which is two people who can stand alone choosing to stand together.

It's very important in any relationship that one partner doesn't lose themselves in the other, and that's very easy if you're involved with a celebrity.

There are two kinds of marriages - where the husband quotes the wife and where the wife quotes the husband.