Gayle Forman Quotes

As far as having peace within myself, the one way I can do that is forgiving the people who have done wrong to me. It causes more stress to build up anger. Peace is more productive.

People say that forgiving is my flaw, but I really believe that holding grudges and anger is a waste of energy.

I think there comes a point where you have to grow up and get over yourself, lighten up…and forgive

make it a practice to avoid hating anyone. If someone's been guilty of despicable actions, especially toward me, I try to forget him. I used to follow a practice - somewhat contrived, I admit - to write the man's name on a piece of scrap paper, drop it into the lowest drawer of my desk, and say to myself: "That finishes the incident, and so far as I'm concerned, that fellow." The drawer became over the years a sort of private wastebasket for crumbled-up spite and discarded personalities.

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't angry some days. But I really have worked hard to put a lot of the anger and disappointment in the past.

I never hold a grudge.

Do not grieve yourself too much for those you hate, nor yet forget them utterly.

The heart of who I am as a person and as a man is forgiveness, after forgiving my father for a lot of things that were done when I was child.

Many people have trouble with forgiveness because they have been taught it is a singular act to be completed in one sitting. That is not so. Forgiveness has many layers, many seasons.

I can never hold a grudge against anyone, even if I know that he has done something wrong to me.

But I don't hold grudges.

Forgiveness isn't just the absence of anger. I think it's also the presence of self-love, when you actually begin to value yourself.

The longer we hate, the harder it is to heal us.

Resentments are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve with forgiveness and letting go.

I can't hate for long. It isn't worth it.

Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from the inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves. Forgive, Edward. Forgive...no one is born with anger. And when we die, the soul is freed of it. But now, here, in order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did, and why you no longer need to feel it.' She touched his hand. 'You need to forgive your father.' ~pgs 141-142

If only it were that easy to let go of hate. Just relax your face.

Forgive everybody for everything. Just forgive and start - most of us can't start with ourselves. We have to forgive the people we think did things to us. So that's fine. Start there - wherever. Start with the dog who peed on the rug. I don't care where you start, just do it.

Forgiveness is a process of giving up the old for something new. Old experiences and memories that we hold on to in anger, resentment, shame, or guilt cloud our spirit mind. The truth is, everything that has happened had to happen. It was a growth experience. There was something you needed to know or learn. If you stay angry, hurt, afraid, ashamed, or guilty, you miss the lesson. You will be stuck in a cloud of pain.

I think one should forgive and remember .... If you forgive and forget in the usual sense, you're just driving what you remember into the subconscious; it stays there and festers. But to look, even regularly, upon what you remember and know you've forgiven is achievement.

Forgiveness in any aspect of something that is complex is the greatest tool.

I love the idea of giving up the vengeful nature that so many of us have.

The sense of anger I had when I was younger is something I thought would never go away. Over time, it's something you get almost bored with.

Reconciliation is a decision that you take in your heart.

I have been wrathful all my life, angry against my father and all others. My wrath must end. All my images now are of heaven.