Ciaran Hinds Quotes

We cannot control what emotions or circumstances we will experience next, but we can choose how we will respond to them.

When you come from so many damaged places you don't ever want to spiral back there, so you gotta continue to check yourself.

But the battles against loneliness that I fought when I was 16 are very different from those I fought when I was 27, and those are very different from the ones I fight at 44.

There are times when I think, 'Do I have the energy to be upset?' and the answer is 'no.'

The cognitive skills that underpin resilience, then, seem like they can indeed be learned over time, creating resilience where there was none.

Before my mum passed away, I was a very extroverted person; I was very outgoing. I didn't care what people thought about me.

I react to stress badly. I handle it better these days. But I'm a very straightforward person.

I've got a lot better at dropping emotions if something goes wrong, or right.

I am more mature today, so I deal better with the mistakes than the many times when I locked myself away and wanted to be alone.

When my father died in my arms it had such a profound affect on me that at that very moment when my dad passed I realized that I needed to face my own fears.

I'm a big believer in the idea that while we are the sum of our tears, we are also the product of our choices in how we deal with those tears.

We only have a certain amount of energy for each day. If we use it for the wrong purpose, if we focus on the negative or dwell on whoever hurt us, then we're not going to have the energy we need for the right purposes.

My advice would be not to write until after 35. You need some experience, and for life to knock you about a bit. Growing up is so hard you probably won't have much emotion to spare anyway.

I think things hit me very hard, and I wish I had allowed things to roll off my back a little bit more.

If people choose to live their life in a way that does not confront the more troubling aspects of their experience, that's fine, if it works for them. But it will probably make them uncomfortable if they come up against somebody like me. So they just shouldn't! They shouldn't read my work!

At first, when I got bad press and people would talk bad about my family or something like that, I would get really upset, but now it's just not worth my energy.

You start acting in spite of your neuroses, not because of them.

Stress is never a given. There are people who get divorced amicably. There are people who pack up and move with no emotional toll. There is no stressor 'out there' in the world. We experience stress - or we don't - depending on what we believe.

The psychic task which a person can and must set for himself is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.

If you lose a parent, no matter at what age, every five or 10 years you have a different way of missing them and a different way of getting on with your life.

One must not let oneself be overwhelmed by sadness.

Somewhere deep inside me was the will and determination not only to live, but to be a more present mother for my kids, instead of one who was emotionally unavailable because she was in so much pain, as my own mother was.

Since being diagnosed with Asperger's, I'd been working with an acting coach who has now become a good friend. We'd been trying lots of improvisational techniques to help me with some of the problems I experience. But it's a very slow process.

I don't deal with death very well. My brother, John Candy, my dad, my mom, Brandon Tartikoff just a couple of weeks ago. I mean, you lose a lot of people in your life, and that's one thing I am constantly working on - pain management.

When I was younger, things got to me more, but not now.