Jen Lancaster Quotes

I think it's important to keep your own identity when you've got a baby.

I love my father, but I have worked to develop a separate and distinct identity in different projects I have worked on.

Women are individuals in parenting, and why not?

Every woman in this world is allowed to define themselves how they want.

I see a lot of young female performers who do not call themselves feminist, but would certainly believe in their own right to self-determination, and wouldn't want anybody to stop them from becoming themselves. They just refuse to recognize the relationship between their lives and those of other women, or feel any solidarity there.

I'm not 'Blockbuster Boy.' I never wanted to be. I wasn't looking for that.

Self-esteem is the basis for feminism because self-esteem is based on defining yourself and believing in that definition. Self-esteem is regarding yourself as a grown-up.

In an age where there is much talk about "being yourself," I reserve to myself the right to forget about being myself, since in any case there is very little chance of my being anybody else.

Women should be someone and not something.

Be yourself. A horse without the lancer is still a horse; a lancer without the horse is just a man.

Every act is an act of self definition.

I don't want to be labeled as either a pansy or a heterosexual. Labeling is so self-limiting. We are what we do - not what we say we are.

I believe, firmly, that women are always right. Ah, I should actually rephrase that: I... don't.

Don't let anyone define you. You define yourself.

I don't necessarily think of myself as a feminist, but I'm a whole person. I'm not just breasts or ass or thighs - I'm a whole being! And it just seems like women aren't necessarily striving to be the whole of themselves.

When you're growing up you need your parents, but you don't want to be associated with them because you're trying to have your own life.

Freedom and constraint are two aspects of the same necessity, the necessity of being the man you are and not another. You are free to be that man, but not another.

Freedom and constraint are two aspects of the same necessity, which is to be what one is and no other.

I don't want to wear what every other women wears. I won't be dictated to.

I came to live in a country I love; some people label me a defector. I have loved men and women in my life; I've been labeled the bisexual defector. Want to know another secret? I'm even ambidextrous. I don't like labels. Just call me Martina.

If the will did not exist, neither would there be that centre of the world, which we call the I.

With all the things that you could be, you never could learn how to be me.

But maybe a man was nothing but a man, which is what Baby Suggs always said. They encouraged you to put some of your weight in their hands and soon as you felt how light and lovely that was, they studied your scars and tribulations, after which they did what he had done: ran her children out and tore up the house. [...] A man ain't nothing but a man,' said Baby Suggs. 'But a son? Well now, that's somebody.

That’s what we were told—stand up for yourself. But that’s hard to do if you don’t know who you are.

Defining myself, as opposed to being defined by others, is one of the most difficult challenges I face.