Henry Cloud Quotes

My limits will be better marked. Both the limits I will set, and my own limits.

A lot of people are afraid to face themselves, especially when something goes wrong. But that's important, because if something happens within a relationship, it could be how you're allowing someone else to treat you.

I've learned that I am allowed to say what I like and what I don't like. And I've learned that I have to be professional and not be everyone's best friend.

Healthy shame is an emotion that teaches us about our limits. Like all emotions, shame moves us to get our basic needs met.

I don't like saying 'no' to people, and I'm going to have to learn how to say 'no' more.

Filtering can be a very good thing when it comes to human relationships and familial harmony. Yeah, filtering is often an absolute necessity.

If someone you know makes a bad decision or uses bad judgment, it doesn't mean you have to allow that to alter your attitude. Why should you allow anyone else's bad decisions to send you into a tailspin of misery?

Emotional intelligence is a very important skill set, not just to be happier but also to succeed professionally.

Teach your kids emotional intelligence. Help them become more evolved than you are. Explain that, for instance, not everyone will like them.

I tend to take things personally. But I can only take so much, and then I jump back. I have strong survival skills.

The more socially intelligent you are, the happier and more robust and more enjoyable your relationships will be.

If men can learn to be less defensive, more open to others, and more accepting of accountability, they will adapt well to the new global economy.

You learn, right, a lot of people's problems - why they get upset, why they get down, why they turn to drink - is because they can't say one word and it's N-O, no.

I think relationships are really hard. Each one gives you lessons that you need.

As novices, we think we're entirely responsible for the way people treat us. I have long since learned that we are responsible only for the way we treat people.

When people disappoint you, it's just as much your responsibility to be aware of it and what you don't want.

You have to support your children to have a healthy relationship.

Emotional intelligence is your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships.

I like tough relationships. I think relationships with conflict are good for you - you learn. But you can't listen too much. I have a strong point of view, and it's important that I fight for my ideas.

I famously had a huge television producer say to me one time, 'Can you please stop doing that to your face? It's very distracting and unattractive.' And I was like, 'You mean move it? Okay, sorry, I guess we're not going to work together.'

The ABC's are attitude, behavior and communication skills.

In elementary school, we should teach nonviolent conflict resolution and healthy communication skills, which will help children cope with issues like rejection and sexuality later in life.

We teach people how to treat us.

Let's just say that I have a tendency if I am uncomfortable in a situation to speak my mind.

A huge part of what a kid learns when they're growing up is social and emotional development. As adults, we take it for granted that other people have emotions that are different from ours, and we can identify what they are, but those are skills that children have to learn.