Melody Beattie Quotes

Stop saying yes out of fear about what others will think about you and say NO out of love for yourself!

What I wish for myself is that I could be the kind of person who just goes, 'This is what I need,' and doesn't feel bad about it.

I was taught to be demure, so it was harder for me to learn how to stand up for myself and go, 'What do I want? What are my desires?'

What modeling taught me at a young age was how to say 'no,' which is something girls - we're not always good at saying 'no.' We want to be nice, and then we forget to look out for ourselves.

You should always stand up for yourself.

You always have to stand up for yourself.

Don't change who you are and it's okay to say no.

Don't accept less than what it is that you know that you want. Don't allow someone to be a jerk. Don't allow someone to disrespect you. Listen to the bigger voice in your head telling you that you deserve the best, whatever that is whatever that is you decide you like for yourself. It may differ from what I like or what is ideal for me. But the bottom line is to never accept less than what you know you deserve.

I see women who have this struggle between what they know is right, what they know is necessary, what they know is healthy, what they know is good for them, what they know is good for the work that they need to do, what they know is good for their bodies, what they know is good for their families - all too often ending that statement with the upturned question mark: "If it's okay with everyone?" Still asking, still requesting, still filing petitions for somebody to say that it's all right.

I was not stressing about what other people wanted. I put myself first.

There's a lot of power in the word 'no,' and a lot of people, like myself, need to know that.

No one can take advantage of you without your permission.

But most important of all, she explained that it was all right to say 'No. I disagree.' that was a gift. I understood it was power. The power to think my own thoughts. The power to believe in myself.

Standing in our power requires us to let go of the need to make others like us & instead stand committed to honoring ourselves.

I do not need to love you to prove that I love myself!!

God is not a doormat, nor should anyone else be a doormat.

You have a right to say no. Most of us have very weak and flaccid 'no' muscles. We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it's our choice. Your 'no' muscle has to be built up to get to a place where you can say, 'I don't care if that's what you want. I don't want that. No.'

We need to find the courage to say no to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity.

I have always believed that I should have had no difficulty in causing my rights to be respected.

I'm keeping my power to myself and my glow. I'm not giving anybody my glow anymore.

When I was younger, I used to just want to please everybody and not want to be an issue or not be considered a diva. I've just grown up and realized you have to look out for yourself and stick up for yourself, and there's nothing wrong with that.

I have never given others a chance to exploit me.

I do not let anyone use me and throw me.

We have to not be afraid to say no.

Be your own advocate.