Ann Brashares Quotes

There hardly can be a greater difference between any two men, than there too often is, between the same man, a lover and a husband.

All love shifts and changes. I don't know if you can be wholeheartedly in love all the time.

Time cools, time clarifies; no mood can be maintained quite unaltered through the course of hours.

Love does not alter the beloved, it alters itself.

I love my parents. I did love them. It's complicated.

There is the same difference in a person before and after he is in love, as there is in an unlighted lamp and one that is burning.

But I can tell - let truth be told - That love will change in growing old; Though day by day is nought to see, So delicate his motions be.

He was already looking at their relationship through the lens of the past tense. It puzzled her, the ability of romantic love to mutate, how quickly a loved one could become a stranger. Where did the love go? Perhaps real love was familial, somehow, linked to blood, since love for children did not die as romantic love did.

If you love someone when you're 20 and you carry that love with you until you're 90, it's not going to be the same dynamic.

Love in all its forms is very difficult ... to express. It changes, obviously. If you’re young, and you’re romantically in love with somebody, and often if you’ve just met somebody, its crazy! It’s completely overwhelming. You can’t think of anything else. You just want to climb inside the other person and live under their pancreas. And then it mellows, somewhat... to the point where you can barely look at them... without feeling a mild distaste

Love is always changing and unless we stay aware and change with it, it eludes us.

What is reason now was passion heretofore.

When autumn comes, it doesn't ask. It just walks in, where it left you last. And you never know, when it starts; until there's fog inside the glass around your summer heart.

You never quite know what the change is until, one day, you wake up and go, "Wow, I'm reacting to things differently and I feel differently."

One loving thought can change everything.

There was a time when I thought I loved my first wife more than life itself. But now I hate her guts. I do. How do you explain that? What happened to that love? What happened to it, is what I'd like to know. I wish someone could tell me.

Friends come in and out of our lives, like busboys in a restaurant.

It's okay to change your mind. About a feeling, a person, a promise of love.

A love relationship has always been shaped by the context and times we live in.

For thousands of years, most marriages were in Stage I--survival-focused. After World War II, marriages increasingly flirted with Stage II--a self-fulfillment focus... Love's definition is in a transition.

I believe therapy can be done more rapidly. I'm into your finding the source of what's making you think and feel the way you do and shifting it quickly.

Well, let it pass, he thought; April is over, April is over. There are all kinds of love in the world, but never the same love twice. --The Sensible Thing

Our feelings probably are not less strong at fifty than they were ten or fifteen years before; but they have changed their objects, and dwell on far different prospects. At five-and-thirty a man thinks of what his own existence is; when the maturity of age has grown into its autumn, he is wrapt up in that of others. The loss of wife or child then becomes more deplorable, as being impossible to repair; for no fresh connection can give us back the companion of our earlier years, nor a "new-sprung race" compensate for that, whose career we hoped to see run.

Children change a lot in terms of personality. Camaraderie that you feel with somebody might not be there a year later. That group might not have the same chemistry. So I completely understand why they're rushing into it, because they probably feel like they have to.

If he's been married for 31 years, he's not the same man.