Honore de Balzac Quotes

After a while in marriage, it doesn't work anymore. There is something missing, there is something wrong. There are few marriages that stay alive forever. We like something, and after a while, we hate what we used to love.

In fact, when care appears, unconditional love often vanishes.

One day you are happy and laughing and the next you are crying.

Next to the pleasure of finding a new mistress is that of being rid of an old one.

And where love ends, hate begins

It scares me how fast I go from disliking to loving him, and I wonder if it’s this way for everyone.

Man can start with aversion and end with love, but if he begins with love and comes round to aversion he will never get back to love.

We love people differently at different stages of our knowledge of them. As love changes its hape and its nature, we have to decide what we're going to do about that love on any given day.

You can't help but just be aware that things might not always be as good as they are, because people's feelings about others can turn on a dime.

Is love a fancy or a feeling.... or a Ferrars?

Love is an experiment ... what happens next is always surprising.

Let us consider the polarity of love and hate.... Now, clinical observation shows not only that love is with unexpected regularityaccompanied by hate (ambivalence), and not only that in human relationships hate is frequently a forerunner of love, but also that in many circumstances hate changes into love and love into hate.

Girls only say I hate you to the guys that they love

Feelings follow actions. If I'm feeling low, I deliberately act cheery, and I find myself actually feeling happier. If I'm feeling angry at someone, I do something thoughtful for her and my feelings toward her soften. This strategy is uncannily effective.

You'll always love the person, if you're sensible. But you get a lot of people, especially in divorces and separations, doing a lot of damage to themselves, because they can't figure out that they actually still love this person, but not in their original way.

Reconsidering Happiness captures all the contradictory impulses of falling in and out of love-the lust and wanderlust, the contentment and restlessness, the secret loyalties, the hard compromises. Sherrie Flick has written a wise and elegant novel.

No one is more conventional than a woman who is falling out of love.

I have one great fear in my heart, that one day when they are turned to loving, they will find that we are turned to hating.

In my experience, desire is desire, love is love.

There was a time when I thought I loved my first wife more than life itself. But now I hate her guts. I do. How do you explain that? What happened to that love? What happened to it, is what I'd like to know. I wish someone could tell me.

A love affair should always be a honeymoon. And the only way to make sure of that is to keep changing the man; for the same man can never keep it up.

Love may turn to indifference with possession.

Tears may be considered as the natural and involuntary resource of the mind overcome by some sudden and violent emotion, before ithas had time to reconcile its feelings to the change in circumstances: while laughter may be defined to be the same sort of convulsive and involuntary movement, occasioned by mere sur prise or contrast (in the absence of any more serious emotion), before it has time to reconcile its belief to contradictory appearances.

It's okay to change your mind. About a feeling, a person, a promise of love.