David Augsburger Quotes

During the writing of all of my books, I've learned that, most of all, people want to know that someone is listening and - this is the tricky part - remembering.

One of the biggest lessons I've learned during my time on 'Oprah' is that everyone wants to be heard. We all want to have our humanity acknowledged - to have others see us for who we truly are. We all want to know that we are valued, we are heard, we are understood.

Folks want to be listened to, they want to be heard.

I think half or almost all of the pain in the world … is people not feeling seen. It’s like Mr. Rogers, my hero, says: “Love is the root of everything … love or the lack of it.”

It's always marvelous to have somebody who, you know, you feel understands and wants to encourage.

I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them.

The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.

My mother was all about unconditional love, and I don't think we give that to our patients a lot. At the end of the day, what they really need you to do is to look at them in the eye and say, 'I'm here for you. I'm going to make sure this works out.'

What air is to the body, to feel understood is to the heart.

If you want to be loved, be lovable.

It's beautiful to have people look me in the eyes and actually treat me like a human.

My mum told me that the best thing you could give a woman was attention.

All I wanted was just what everybody else wants, you know, to be loved.

It's so important to keep a marriage alive with small treats and doing little things for each other. Just remembering to say nice things and to have listening time is vital. That ghastly phrase 'quality time' means taking three minutes to sit down and be still with someone rather than yelling over your shoulder as you rush out.

Everyone loves to be loved.

And if you see me, smile and maybe give me a hug. That's important to me too.

It's human desire to be understood. And we always feel we're not understood.

Time, presence and physical attentiveness are our most basic proxies for something ultimately unprovable: that we are understood.

You can win more friends with your ears than with your mouth. People who feel like they're being listened to feel accepted and appreciated. They feel like they're being taken seriously and what they say really matters.

When you least expect it, someone may actually listen to what you have to say.

The thing I really love about my fans is the vulnerability and openness, the crying and the hugs. They are so kind.

It's such an amazing thing to be loved for who you are.

The best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are.

When people feel they’re heard and understood, they’ll listen.

Typically, we get annoyed when our spouses complain. We get defensive. But, really, when your spouse complains, he or she is giving you wonderful information about what would make him or her feel loved.