Gary Chapman Quotes

It's so important to keep a marriage alive with small treats and doing little things for each other. Just remembering to say nice things and to have listening time is vital. That ghastly phrase 'quality time' means taking three minutes to sit down and be still with someone rather than yelling over your shoulder as you rush out.

What women want: To be loved, to be listened to, to be desired, to be respected, to be needed, to be trusted, and sometimes, just to be held. What men want: Tickets to the World Series.

After about 20 years of marriage, I'm finally starting to scratch the surface of what women want. And I think the answer lies somewhere between conversation and chocolate.

I think the things about being with someone and knowing someone so well is that the things you love about them, you always will. The things that drive you crazy will always drive you crazy about them.

All that a husband or wife really wants is to be pitied a little, praised a little, and appreciated a little.

Love is about mutual respect, apart from attraction.

I feel like if I'm sick, I need flowers. I'm very open about saying what I need from a partner, and he needs to meet those demands.

If your partner is angry with you, recognize that his anger is a misdirected plea for love. Your partner's simply upset because he feels something you said or did was a sign of not loving him enough.

For me, romance isn't an over-the-top act. It's someone offering to help and to support me. Or if that person thinks I'm making the wrong decision, he'll tell me. I want him to be honest, because being that honest takes a lot of guts.

Sometimes a lot of us men think we are doing everything for the woman we love, but there is an aspect of a woman a man doesn't understand.

Towards my husband, I often fail to show interest in his affairs and amusements, not rousing myself to respond when I'm tired or concerned with other things, forgetting he is very patient with me.

A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.

I have been in love, and it was a great feeling. It's when you are attracted to and feel affection for someone. You want to do things for that person. But only love isn't enough in a relationship - understanding and communication are very important aspects.

The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.

Cherish your human connections - your relationships with friends and family.

I would just like a woman someday, somewhere, at some point in my life to say to me, 'You're a great listener.' Haven't heard it yet, and that's a superior compliment to get from a woman. But I'm going to work on it.

I think a man needs to be a man. To hold a woman the way she wants to be held. Just do whatever your woman wants, and you'll be fine.

If love means never having to say you're sorry, then marriage means always having to say everything twice.

I have no useful theories about love and marriage.

My mum told me that the best thing you could give a woman was attention.

One of the things you learn when you get married is how you need to always work on continuing to make it better.

I feel what a spouse can do for you, no child or parent can. Just that if you get the right connect with your spouse, you get it going right.

A woman doesn't just love a man. She loves who he is. And, who he is is dependent on what he needs.

Cherish your human connections: your relationships with friends and family.

Time, presence and physical attentiveness are our most basic proxies for something ultimately unprovable: that we are understood.