Nicholas Sparks Quotes

Nine times out of 10, women don't want to fix a problem, they just want to be understood. I'll never get that.

Women are good listeners, but it's a waste of time telling your troubles to a man unless there's something specific you want him to do.

The price of telling your troubles is having to listen to advice.

If a boy, if a man, asks you if you're all right and you say yes, he'll always believe you and get on with what he wants to do. It's just the way they're made.

After all, when you seek advice from someone it's certainly not because you want them to give it. You just want them to be there while you talk to yourself.

There are a lot of people who will come to me for advice or whatever.

Women speak because they wish to speak, whereas a man speaks only when driven to speak by something outside himself like, for instance, he can't find any clean socks.

Women tell stories; men want answers. Guys get impatient when we drone on forever; we get frustrated when they tune out.

I deal with my sons like young men. If they have a problem with something, they come to me. I am the type of dad that will drop everything I am doing for them, and always tell them to talk to me about it.

Women don't like advice. They don't want you to fix their problems, they just want you to listen.

Listen if you want to be heard

You want to talk to someone; first open your ears.

It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens, how confusions that seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard.

What people really want, no matter who they are, is someone to listen to them. ... people have a lot on their minds, however trivial, and if you're simply willing to sit there like a sack of dirt and let them yammer, they will tell it to you.

Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty his heart.

Listening is more than being quiet. Listening is much more than silence. Listening requires undivided attention. The time to listen is when someone needs to be heard. The time to deal with a person with a problem is when he has the problem. The time to listen is the time when our interest and love are vital to the one who seeks our ear, our heart, our help, and our empathy.

And he would listen, making only a few comments, always sympathetic, so that when I left him I had the distinct impression he had solved everything for me.

I don't speak a lot when I get home, during the season. It's great. I just get to sit and listen. My wife gets to tell me whatever she wants to tell me, and I don't talk. I'm too exhausted to talk, so I'm a very good listener.

If you want to be a good conversationalist, be a good listener. To be interesting, be interested.

It's not good to assume what your kid wants. It's not good to push them in their own way. It's not good to make them do something you wanted to do but didn't have the chance to. You should listen to what your kids are saying, and let them live, and let them be themselves.

What most of us want is to be heard, to communicate.

Listening with undivided attention and unconditional love Is perhaps the greatest gift we can extend to others.

It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens.

Being listened to should be sufficiently gratifying in itself, whether or not the advice is followed.

Most of the successful people I know mostly listen, not talk.