Susan Elizabeth Phillips Quotes

If you don't heal the wounds of your childhood, you bleed into the future.

But I don't think I've grown up to be a damaged adult.

You know, the mind is a remarkable thing. Just because you can't see the wound doesn't mean it isn't hurting. It scars all the time, but it heals.

We may talk a good game and write even better ones, but we never outgrow those small wounded things we were when we were five and six and seven.

There is no magic cure, no making it all go away forever. There are only small steps upward; an easier day, an unexpected laugh, a mirror that doesn't matter anymore.

Caring for your inner child has a powerful and surprisingly quick result: Do it and the child heals.

A lot of people do have tragic childhoods. But you know what? Get over it.

To heal from the inside out is the key.

When I first went up to see my editor, I was with my agent, and my editor said, 'Well, what have you been doing all these years?' And my agent said, 'He's been in recovery. From his childhood.'

You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.

The time it takes to feel better about a breakup is directly proportional to the time it takes to feel better about yourself.

When some one sorrow, that is yet reparable, gets hold of your mind like a monomania,--when you think, because Heaven has denied you this or that, on which you had set your heart, that all your life must be a blank,--oh, then diet yourself well on biography,--the biography of good and great men. See how little a space one sorrow really makes in life. See scarce a page, perhaps, given to some grief similar to your own, and how triumphantly the life sails on beyond it.

How we carry what has gone wrong for us is essential to being at home in ourselves, and present to the world with all of its failings.

We're taught to find the antecedents to our adult failures in childhood traumas, and so we spend our lives looking bacwards and pointing fingers, rather than bucking up and forging ahead. But what if your childhood was all a big misunderstanding? An elaborate ruse? What does that say about failure? Better yet, what does that say about potential?

One writes of scars healed, a loose parallel to the pathology of the skin, but there is no such thing in the life of an individual.

I believe, when in my behavior or in relationships or in the way I react to something, that I'm still dealing with some leftover stuff from my childhood, but the good thing is now, because I have learned so much from the Bible, I can tell when I'm behaving wrong and when I'm not, and it doesn't take me very long to realize that's out of fear, or that's because I was controlled as a child, and I can make a conscious decision to behave the way I know I should behave.

I wasn't ever unable to function, but I did realize at some point that I had built a wall between myself and my childhood by saying, "I'm so glad that's over. Nothing can ever be as bad again," without understanding that my childhood was still very much with me.

I think the pressure has also helped me want to rise above that pressure, and it has helped in accelerating the healing process. It's helped give me a drive. I have a definite survival drive, and the pressure gave me a drive to get on top of it.

Sometimes people, their creative drive comes from an energy to try to heal themselves.

Adults are just children sometimes. But evil, hurt children.

I was down after divorce - I was all the way down. And I just felt like, "God, I gotta turn this around. I can't go down like this. I have to know that this is happening for a reason." And I knew that I had to turn to music.

If you don't make peace with your past it will keep showing up in your present.

I’ve had so many knives stuck into me, when they hand me a flower I can’t quite make out what it is. It takes time.

Healing begins where the wound was made.

We all have scars [...] Better by far for them to be worn on the outside.