John C. Maxwell Quotes

The emotions of man are stirred more quickly than man’s intelligence.

The feeling of being 'offended' is a warning indicator that is showing you where to look within yourself for unresolved issues.

I think that sometimes people [who overreact or lash out] will hang on to their point just because they're so embarrassed that they made it. They won't set it down because they are the authors of these [disproportionate responses] and they have a lot to be embarrassed about.

Every time I say something they find hard to hear, they chalk it up to my anger, and never to their own fear.

I am not being obtuse. You are being paranoid.

People push my buttons, so I'm going to react.

Because that’s how it works after something terrible has happened. You know this is true if something terrible has ever happened to you. A thousand objects take on new meaning. Everything is a reminder of something else.

The emotions you once thought of as negative are merely a call to action. In fact, instead of calling them negative emotions... let's call them Action Signals.

Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up.

Absolutely, I think that is where a scent is so powerful because it harnesses our memory and our memory is a very emotional place. I do like the smell of excitement.

I learn to be kind of balanced, because when I was a teenager and in my early 20s, I would get very involved with political issues and stuff like that. And now, I still have an opinion on everything, but I try to balance staying informed and having a positive attitude.

Anger is not a real feeling. Every time in my life I've ever been angry, it's because I was scared, or because I was sad and I didn't know it. Anger doesn't just come out of a vacuum.

Winners know what makes people tick by effectively tapping into our fears and aspirations. By listening very carefully and then repeating almost word-for-word exactly what they've heard, winners know how to articulate compelling needs—and products to satisfy those needs—that people didn't even know they wanted.

I have pitfalls. I have emotional responses to things that are really not about me. They're about other people.

If you feel compelled to respond every time you're criticized it reveals just how much you've built your identity on being right.

With a polite smile, I decided she was insane.

Men don't understand how their mannerisms can get on women's nerves so that you feel you just have to snap.

Brazilians tend to have that weakness, they get emotional. You can easily get them upset and get them out of their comfort zone. They're clever too and very gifted athletes but they have that emotional thing, which we Europeans also have a little bit of.

You might see a female, and she triggers something, or you see an old lady walking down the street, she triggers something. You go to Africa, you see the vibes, that triggers something.

Most people are not prepared to have their minds changed, and I think they know in their hearts that other people are just the same, and one of the reasons people become angry when they argue is that they realize just that, as they trot out their excuses.

It usually takes two people to make one of them angry.

When you're overwhelmed by your emotion, you listen less and you judge more. This is also the reality of the dogmatic mind.

There are answers which, in turning away wrath, only send it to the other end of the room, and to have a discussion coolly waived when you feel that justice is all on your own side is even more exasperating in marriage than in philosophy.

A strong-willed child - a strong-willed child, more than anyone else, needs to learn to use emotion and discussion to resolve issues. That's the last child in the whole world you want to hit.

To rush into explanations is always a sign of weakness.