Rahul Dev Quotes

When you give directives to a child, especially a teenager, you must consider the nature of your child.

You can instill fear in your kids and get them to mind, but they won't function better in the world and your relationship will suffer greatly.

But I know I have a son who doesn't listen to anything I say and if he hears the same thing from someone else, sometimes it has a little more impact.

I deal with my sons like young men. If they have a problem with something, they come to me. I am the type of dad that will drop everything I am doing for them, and always tell them to talk to me about it.

I'm very open with my kids and we can talk about anything.

There are all sorts of challenging conversations as a parent and it's never easy. I think the main thing is trying to be fair, sometimes there has to be a little bit of discipline, maybe even punishment involved in trying to make your child understand, learn from bad experiences and make sure they don't happen again.

In order to influence a child, one must be careful not to be that child's parent or grandparent.

Treat your kid like a darling for the first five years. For the next five years, scold them. By the time they turn sixteen, treat them like a friend. Your grown up children are your best friends.

Kids need to open up to their parents. And parents should realize that when kids are pushing you away, that's the time to really step in.

I am a lover. And with my kids I am even softer. I realize with my son, I have to sometimes be tough, especially now when he's pushing boundaries. With my daughter, I can get a little stern with her and she pretty much will listen.

The important thing is that when you correct your children, they see what they've done wrong and why you're upset.

It's important to show children love, affection and balance and invest time in their moral upbringing.

Parenting is the hardest thing I have ever done. I tried to find the balance between the strict, traditional Chinese way I was raised, which I think can be too harsh, and what I see as a tendency in the West to be too permissive and indulgent. If I could do it all again, I would, with some adjustments.

Our children are counting on us to provide two things: consistency and structure. Children need parents who say what they mean, mean what they say, and do what they say they are going to do.

I'm a believer in the parent first, friend second philosophy, and trying to find that balance.

Your children don't have to fear you to respect you.

I have an almost seven year old... I think it's essential to be consistent with kids. And truthful, without scaring them. I could go on for hours on this one.

Even though your kids will consistently do the exact opposite of what you're telling them to do, you have to keep loving them just as much.

The whole concept of 'grounding' children is utterly stupid - they just go off and rebel and don't like you. When my kids eventually come along, I don't want them to not like me.

I will have to earn trust and respect from my kids.

Attitudes about the rearing and education of children vary between two extremes. One, which might be labeled “authoritarian” or “coercive,” rests on an assumption that children are by nature irresponsible and lazy, and will do their schoolwork only if they are penalized for a poor performance. The opposite view might be labeled “progressive” or “democratic.” It rests on the assumption that children who are brought up with love, trust, and clear but kind leadership are eager to grow up and be like their parents, eager to explore, learn, master skills, and take on responsibility; they need guidance but not sternness or punishment.

I do discuss things with him, but as a father, not a friend.

To bring up a child well, all a parent needs to do is be extremely honest with the child.

I'm a proud strict mom and, you know, I'm really proud of the two daughters I've raised. And I'm especially proud of my relationship with them. We're very close. I think we're good friends.

Once you've raised a child to adulthood, you can only be as demanding as your offspring allow.