Shakti Gawain Quotes

In love, each man is his own personal challenge.

Beyond just writing about falling in love and out of love and wanting to do certain things and going out and partying and all the things that I grew up writing about, I want to write about deeper things.

I have a tendency to go through my life at full speed and as a one-man band, and so I don't generally stop and take in other people enough to develop many relationships. I'm starting to regret that a bit. I want to change it.

Each relationship nurtures a strength or weakness within you.

I'm sensitive, you know, about some things, and as some of my partners could attest to, incredibly insensitive.

Sometimes, we only get to know someone as one aspect of who they are. Then you start peeling back the layers and understanding more and more about who they are - their vulnerabilities, their fears, their joys, all those other words that equal humanity.

Being in relationship with others helps us know ourselves better.

And maybe it is only by finding yourself that you can feel the true intensity of becoming close to another person.

I thought I had learned how to have an intimate relationship. And I thought I'd learned how to be happy. Everybody has issues. For me, the challenge is intimacy, but I really didn't start to get that until I turned 60.

When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.

One of the best ways to educate our hearts is to look at our interaction with other people, because our relationships with others are fundamentally a reflection of our relationship with ourselves.

The school of relationships is where you learn self-knowledge. I just don't know how you could learn it sitting alone in the desert on a rock by yourself. You have to see where you fail at it. And that confrontation with your own ability - "I was again not able to love" - those are the teachable moments.

When you look back... on your love affairs... what you really find out is that the only person you really go to bed with is yourself.

Lovers are not snails; they don't have to protrude from their shells and meet each other halfway. Meet me within your own self.

Lovers need to know how to lose themselves and then how to find themselves again.

The bigger confrontation is the one an individual has with itself.

Everybody has a lot of darkness in them because without that you're not a whole person.

True love brings up everything - you're allowing a mirror to be held up to you daily.

There are quite a few honest songwriters out there writing about relationships and their own personality traits. But for some reason, once they step out of the bedroom, their honesty doesn't seem to come with them.

I am still a person with a sense of superficiality that I'm trying to challenge.

Every relationship that we have in our lives - our contact with each person, place, and event - serves a very special, if yet to be realized purpose: They are mirrors that can serve to show us things about ourselves that can be realized in no other way.

I'm not a terrible person, I know that, but sometimes in a relationship, I can be crappy.

Sometimes you have to confront your demons and sometimes even let them loose to genuinely find a place where you can gain some understanding.

I think relationships are really hard. Each one gives you lessons that you need.

Remember that no relationship is a total waste of time. You can always learn something about yourself.