Sue Monk Kidd Quotes

You cannot belong to anyone else, until you belong to yourself.

Don't depend on a guy for your happiness. You have to live your own life and do your own thing. That's when good things come around - when you do your own thing and you're not worried about a man. It will happen in due time.

Growing up is not being so dead-set on making everybody happy.

Let us first obtain ourselves…Give us ourselves and all that belongs to us will follow.

As a southern woman, we often define ourselves by who we are with. But I wanted my life to be built differently.

I don't need love or a man to complete me,and someday, you'll find that true for yourself. Suitors will come and go, but you will remain.

Whatever you want that others in your life can't give you, ask yourself how you can give it to yourself.

It is the same way with dating. The time you are most prepared for dating is when you don't need anyone to complete you, fulfill you, or instill in you a sense of worth or purpose.

Figure out who you are separate from your family, and the man or woman you're in a relationship with. Find who you are in this world and what you need to feel good alone. I think that's the most important thing in life. Find a sense of self because with that, you can do anything else.

I've learned that it's important to spend some time in a relationship with yourself and not being defined by your partner.

The hand you hold the longest is your own.

I will be unneeded, and gladly so, when you realize that the vitality and reinforcement and joy are your own, and rise from the fountain of your own beings; when you realize that you do not need me for protection, for there is nothing you need protect yourself against.

For as long as you can remember, you have been a pleaser, depending on others to give you an identity. You need not look at that only in a negative way. You wanted to give your heart to others, and you did so quickly and easily. But now you are being asked to let go of all these self-made props and trust that God is enough for you. You must stop being a pleaser and reclaim your identity as a free self.

Don't wait for someone else to complete you. 'Jerry Maguire' was just a movie.

It's a life's journey of finding ourselves, finding our power, and living for yourself, not for everyone else.

For me, a happy ending is not everything works out just right and there is a big bow, it's more coming to a place where a person has a clear vision of his or her own life in a way that enables them to kind of throw down their crutches and walk.

But there isn't any second half of myself waiting to plug in and make me whole. It's there. I'm already whole.

I definitely feel more complete than before. There's a void you have when you don't feel you've found the other part of who you are, so I'm in a different place now and that's nice to experience.

You have to separate yourself from your parents. You do. In order to find yourself.

I came to love, I came into my own.

I needed to carve out my own place and find out what I was going to do.

We must be our own before we can be another's.

I don't really focus on other people's expectations of me. I only care what my own expectations are.

It's nice to finally be my own person.

Independence was something I really wanted from a young age and I think it really helped me make sense of myself, more so than perhaps say going to university would have done.