Melissa McBride Quotes

I'm a fixer, unfortunately. I'm like, 'Oh, I can fix you.' But it's not just guys I'm dating anymore. It's this entire legion of young girls who tell me they need me to maintain any sort of sanity or peace.

A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

I look at people in certain circumstances, and I fall into caretaker mode real quick, real easy. I like to shoulder people up and carry them along, and then I end up creating some kind of dependency. I enable. It's really, really hard for me.

I think there are times in a lot of people's pasts where they've unintentionally fallen in love with really damaged people. You go out with someone who's a mess so you can feel less of a mess.

If you're making too many excuses for someone, agonising over them in a way which takes up all your waking thoughts and feel so nervous around them you could be sick, then they are probably the wrong person.

A therapist might suggest my generosity is a way of buying affection. But buying people's love has never been an issue for me. Generally speaking, I don't want their love.

I didn't know the word no, because I wanted to please everybody all the time. Every kid does.

I've always been afraid of saying no to people because I don't want them to be disappointed and dislike me.

Sometimes you kind of lose yourself in someone else's personality.

I needed somebody to love me, and the people that I chose were my coaches. I would sacrifice my body to be successful for my coaches because I wanted them to love me, to respect me, to have positive feelings about me.

I had a mother who was very emotionally demanding, wanting to be the centre of attention. As they say in EastEnders, she thought it was all about 'er. I spent a lot of time trying to work out what was going on.

I don't have to go around trying to save everybody anymore; that's not my job.

I've always been the kind of woman who had a man in her life even when he was the wrong man.

Growing up, all I learned was how best to diminish my own light for a partner.

I had a bad habit of falling in love with any girl who was nice to me.

Sometimes you can be with someone that you love, but you know it's not healthy for you. You stay with them because you can't stand the thought of them being with someone else. It kills you.

I am clearly vulnerable to these more passionate and volatile unstable relationships. I am trying to not be so vulnerable.

If you're getting abandonment, if you're getting abuse as a child, if you're getting uncertainty when you're a child, unfortunately you tend to look for that in your life later on, and you think that's love.

One of the things I realized is that if you do not take control over your time and your life, other people will gobble it up. If you don't prioritize yourself, you constantly start falling lower and lower on your list, your kids fall lower and lower on your list.

I love playing women, and I think that this is a throughline to a lot of the characters I've played - they all have this aspect of being wronged. And I think, a lot of the time, the characters are actually wronged by themselves, and they find someone else to blame it on.

When he was on the streets, I was consumed with Nic. I was obsessed with him to the point that I could barely function.

We tend to be responsible for others' feelings all the time and that's not always good.

We're often blinded by romance; we decide to not see things we don't want to see, and put up with behavior that we shouldn't put up with.

My mother was a terrible narcissist and I could well have turned out like her.

I haven't had a terrible relationship, but I've always been the type in a relationship to give too much and not speak out about problems I had or problems that were bothering me. I just wouldn't stand up for myself in any way if I was upset about something.