Judith Martin Quotes

Whenever someone makes out a guest list, the people not on it become officially uninvited, and that makes them the enemies of the invited. Guest lists are just a way of choosing sides.

I'm not invited. I'm not on the A list, haven't been on it in 20 years and my feet have never trod its red fluffy carpets.

We want it to be sunny. Something small and intimate because my work is so public. That would be good for me, but my partner wants to have a big wedding.

I don't want a splashy magazine wedding with celebrities.

The core of Animal House was about prejudice, about equality, and about inclusion/exclusion. It was about a group of people who were together and anything went. Anybody who wanted in could get it in. Then there was that other group that nobody could get in, unless they were white, and just alike. It was very representative of the culture in the '60s, '50s, and '40s in America.

Nothing makes people in the church more angry than grace. It's ironic: we stumble into a party we weren't invited to and find the uninvited standing at the door making sure no other uninviteds get in.

I'm not going into the cool club. It's not my address.

The Clique: The only thing harder then getting in is staying in.

This is the snobbery of the people on the Mayflower looking down their noses at the people who came over ON THE SECOND BOAT!

My background sets me apart. I've never been able to relate to many people. I've always been the outcast child.

A cocktail party is what you call it when you invite everyone you know to come over to your house at six p.m., put cigarettes out on your rug, and leave at eight to go somewhere more interesting for dinner without inviting you.

Never speak disrespectfully of Society, Algernon. Only people who can’t get into it do that.

If right now, culture's so divisive, it just leaves these millions of people like me out.

I guess people wouldn't say nasty things to my face. When you're kind of isolated, you don't really hear the gossip, or you're not really involved in it. You're here, and it's all going on over there.

Because when some people are invisible, everyone suffers.

If you're not part of that club, as I certainly am not, you are not presidential.

A merry Christmas to all my friends except two.

I don't listen to people who can't do stuff that I do.

It's not hard to marginalize people when they've already done it to themselves.

The great danger... in believing yourself especially chosen is that it becomes easy to view those who are not your people as God's especially unchosen.

There are two kinds of people I cannot abide: bigots and any well-organized ethnic group.

It is dreadful the way all the comfortable, happy people stay off to themselves.

There is something demoralizing about watching two people get more and more crazy about each other, especially when you are the only extra person in the room.

You'll still get guys with an array of badges to demonstrate their importance, but that just excludes people. I think fandom is more inclusive now.

There are people in our society who should be separated and discarded.