Alfred Adler Quotes

I try not to deal with people's hostility, though I must if they have something I need from them, as the professors did at Columbia or my landlord did.

My personality does well with people who are deemed difficult. I don't know why it does but I just seem to get along with them. The more difficult the better.

I'm not mean, just aggressive.

When I have an argument with someone, even with someone I am not very close with, I can't sleep at night thinking about it. It's terrible. But I still manage speak out frankly because I have also been gifted with the ability to read people. I can sense when they start to get irritated with me, and then, I shift.

If you understand gender differences in what I call 'conversational style', you may not be able to prevent disagreements from arising, but you stand a better chance of preventing them from spiraling out of control.

I'm only confrontational with my friends.

I'd like to be more assertive when it comes to confrontation. I'm fine on the pitch, but off the pitch, I'm a bit of a softy.

The best way to know people is to work with them.

I really worked at becoming more assertive, and now none of my friends talk to me.

My dad always told me to stand up to bullies, and Bill O'Reilly is kind of a bully, and he's the kind of kid who hits other kids on the playground. And when you hit him, he runs to the teacher and says, 'Teacher, sue him.'

I don't have problems with nobody, period.

My biggest job really is to figure other people out. I need to understand what makes a person tick.

One of the other things I think that I've been able to do in my life, is to listen well.

Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.

It's a difficult question of relations between people.

People seem to think that you should be willing to speak to them whether they're jerks or not.

I learned at an early age that using the third person will push some buttons.

People take things too personally - I don't. If someone says something about me, I let it go. But unfortunately, everyone isn't like that. So I'm trying to be more diplomatic - but people always want a headline from me!

Human relations, I mess them up, and they let me down.

Looking at faces of people, one gets the feeling there's a lot of work to be done.

We're losing social skills, the human interaction skills, how to read a person's mood, to read their body language, how to be patient until the moment is right to make or press a point. Too much exclusive use of electronic information dehumanises what is a very, very important part of community life and living together.

Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.

I was taught by my parents that people who are loud don't have anything to say. I've found if you're suggesting quite big changes, a quiet style may be reassuring.

Listening is more important than talking. Just hit your mark and believe what you say. Just listen to people and react to what they are saying.

In elementary school, we should teach nonviolent conflict resolution and healthy communication skills, which will help children cope with issues like rejection and sexuality later in life.