Joshua Foer Quotes

How do people stay in love, anyway? Is it a choice? Or is it like those plants we studied in biology that mutate into something new and totally different but are still part of the same plant family?

To have twenty lovers in one year is easy. To have one lover for twenty years is difficult.

He'll learn that many women can satisfy for a short period of time, but when he falls in love, only one will sustain him forever.

If I get in a relationship, it's always for the long-term; if not, I don't see the point.

Like everything which is not the involuntary result of fleeting emotion but the creation of time and will, any marriage, happy or unhappy, is infinitely more interesting than any romance, however passionate.

Let him who would enjoy a good future waste none of his present.

We want a marriage with our customers, not a relationship.

If I go into a relationship with an artist, which at most is going to last five years, we have a 100-page contract covering every eventuality. Whereas with marriage you go into it with no contract, with laws that date back hundreds of years, and I don't think that's right.

I'm like most people. We just concentrate on the present. I live right where the film is going through the film projector and it hits the light.

I'm not really attracted to that long-term commitment to one character over many years.

Having a co-founder is incredible, but it has to be the right person: someone who shares your values and ethics, absolutely, but also someone who has a similar vision for the future in terms of their appetite for risk, for low salaries, for hard work.

You get caught up thinking about the future, you lose sight of the present.

You know most people live ninety per cent in the past, seven per cent in the present, and that only leaves them three per cent for the future.

I mean, if the relationship can't survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?

We may make our future by the best use of the present. There is no moment like the present.

I've had very deep relationships that lasted for long periods of time with people - you could almost call them marriages, even though I didn't marry. But it was costly.

Marriage is an investment which pays dividends if you pay interest.

There are some people whom you have in life who have the capacity for real, passionate commitment to something, and sometimes you may be passionately committed to the same thing.

I realized sometime in the early '80s that if I didn't do something - like planning for the future in a way, a kind of pension or something - that if I didn't do something there and then, I was going to be condemned to forever present my three years as a pop star, condensed, as a stage act for the rest of my life. Because that's normally what happens to people in the pop business.

You can't build marriage on a foundation of selfish hedonism, because that would be to promise people only roses, and marriage is also thorns.

People get too caught up in what they don't have and get bogged down as a result. There's joy in the present. It's important to just make the most of the these moments we have. Keep an eye on the future, but don't forget to enjoy NOW.

Marriage is not a love affair. A love affair has to do with immediate personal satisfaction. Marriage is an ordeal; it means yielding, time and again. That's why it's a sacrament; You give up your personal simplicity to participate in a relationship. And when you're giving, you're not giving to the other person; you're giving to the relationship.

I think the most well-adjusted people live in the present with an eye toward the future - I'm not among those.

The value of a relationship is in direct proportion to the time that you invest in the relationship.