Thomas Bailey Aldrich Quotes

Marriage is neither heaven nor hell, it is simply purgatory.

Any one must see at a glance that if men and women marry those whom they do not love, they must love those whom they do not marry.

To marry unequally is to suffer equally.

It's just as hard... staying happily married as it is doing movies.

A man must have something to grumble about; and if he can't complain that his wife harries him to death with her perversity and ill-humour, he must complain that she wears him out with her kindness and gentleness.

I don't care how handsome or fabulous or funny the groom is, or how sweet and accommodating the bride, or vice versa. Marriage is hard.

It's not marriage that I crave. Many of my friends who have married are pretty miserable. Within a year and a half, most of them are either unhappy or divorced.

It's not always been a happy marriage. I guess I wanted a quick fix.

The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they're right if you love to be with them all the time.

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

Marriage is a difficult project. When seven years have passed and all your body's cells have been replaced, you're meant to experience that seven-year itch.

Experts on romance say for a happy marriage there has to be more than a passionate love. For a lasting union, they insist, there must be a genuine liking for each other. Which, in my book, is a good definition for friendship.

A so-called happy marriage corresponds to love as a correct poem to an improvised song.

The Amateur Marriage grew out of the reflection that of all the opportunities to show differences in character, surely an unhappy marriage must be the richest.

Some situations are so hopeless when you look at them from the outside you say, Why are they still married?

A good marriage is different to a happy marriage.

Marriage is the truest goal for ninety-nine per cent of the human race, and they will live the happiest life as soon as they have learnt and are ready to abide by the eternal lesson - that we are bound to bear and forbear and that life to every one must be a compromise.

I don't think having separate bathrooms is a key to a successful marriage, if you love one another.

I'd like to have a successful marriage, not for the sake of labelling or branding, but because I believe in the institution of marriage.

A lot of people seem to want to make the institution of marriage substitute for a real relationship.

I honestly believe you can never tell if a relationship is going to last. In my own marriage, which is going on 14 years, I don't think of it as 'I'm going to be with this person forever.' Instead, I think of more like, 'I'll probably be with this person for the next six weeks. Then I'll re-evaluate.'

Marriage isn't a carnival ride.

I have a lady, she's a great lady. I love her a lot, she loves me. We're on the same page. Whenever that day happens when we're not on the same page we'll move forward with it. We're interested in having our lives be our lives right now and not a third person's vis-a-vis marriage and whatever that means.

The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.

Love is an obsessive delusion that is cured by marriage.