Sheila Heti Quotes

As his hands moved to his trousers, he saw that she was pulling the bedsheets over her. "Don't," he said, barely recognizing his own voice. Her eyes met his, and he said, "I'll be your blanket".

...we both saw something we liked, a willingness to have no walls, or maybe just an unwillingness to keep them standing.

They say there is a doorway from heart to heart, but what is the use of a door when there are no walls?

Love is an attempt at penetrating another being, but it can only succeed if the surrender is mutual.

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

Country music busts the wall between performer and audience. There's a connection because there's a vulnerability, a confessional quality, to so much of the songwriting. Those lyrics take you in.

In a relationship you have to open yourself up.

I'm a sucker for a man who cries. It just gets to me.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

My best advice would be that you have to be vulnerable with each other. Like, everyone says you have to be honest, you have to communicate; like, yes, of course, but you gotta be willing to be vulnerable.

Sex isn't hard, but intimacy is terrifying.

Relationships in general make people a bit nervous. It's about trust. Do I trust you enough to go there?

People have allowed me into their homes, through my words and my music.

Communication is so much better when people are vulnerable.

As a fan, I connect with realness. Whether it's strong or vulnerable, if it's real, I can connect with it.

I have a lot of people in my life, and I think there's something key: the thing that leads to intimacy and relationship and connection is tenderness.

I think when I show my vulnerability, people relate with that because they know deep down inside that they have vulnerable moments, and they can really connect and identify with me on those things.

Me being so open just helps other people. People feel like they know me so much that they can talk to me all of the time about really personal things. Sometimes it's really nice and comforting. It depends on the person, whether they're creepy or not.

You can't be afraid to be honest and to be yourself. We all have imperfections and fall short at some point. Showing your human side creates a sensitivity, openness and trust. That's the beginning of the demise in a relationship - not being honest and not being you.

Honesty and vulnerability endear us to people; they don't endanger us in our relationship.

I never wanted to grow a thicker skin; I felt a real sense of pride in my thin skin, and in a weird way, I still do, because it's my thin skin that allows me to empathize with other people. It's the thing that allows me to create vulnerable art. It's the thing that allows me to create other feelings and make songs that actually grab people and touch people. I feel like I've spent my life fighting that thicker skin because I don't want to become an embittered asshole.

...the sun would leave my sky if I couldn't assume you'd simply come and tell me you were sad.

Love men and women not for their strength but their softness, not for their fullness but their hunger, not for their plenty but their need.

They're safe,'' he said. "And you're not made of glass". He swept me up in his arms. I laughed. "And I'm not made of glass." He carried me into our room and kicked the door shut behind us.

You need to keep people close. You need to give them access to your heart.