It's like our relationship is always about the other side that isn't the obvious side.
The big problems are where people don't realise they have one in the first place.
My parents are really well intended, and I think their way of dealing with things is denial and guilt. Nobody wanted to talk about it. But all I did was blame myself.
Not always behind the scenes is it sunny.
Families in which nothing is ever discussed usually have a lot not to discuss.
A designated patient 'carries' the group's dysfunction. A designated issue performs the same service for an individual, dominating our psyches so that other troubles can go unnoticed.
People think we are such great talkers, but there is so much silence in Ireland about certain issues.
This is a place where trivial issues get debated passionately and important ones not at all.
