Relational Dynamics Quotes

Since appearance can't be peeled decisively from the reality of a thing, attunement is a living, dynamic relation with another being.

Now is the only time. How we relate to it creates the future.

If you think anyone is sane you just don’t know enough about them. The key — and this is very relevant in our case — is to find someone whose insanity dovetails with your own.

If He who in Himself can lack nothing, chooses to need us, it is because we need to be needed.

It is when we try to grapple with another man's intimate need that we perceive how incomprehensible, wavering, and misty are the beings that share with us the sight of the stars and the warmth of the sun.

We need to remember that politics is all about people, not programs. We shouldn't want to take the humanness out of the political arena.

Things don't always tie up in a nice bow. Even when you make strides with people and relationships, it's complicated.

To be loved by someone is to realize how much they share the same needs that lie at the heart of our own attraction to them. Albert Camus suggested that we fall in love with people because, from the outside, they look so whole, physically whole and emotionally 'together' - when subjectively we feel dispersed and confused. We would not love if there were no lack within us, but we are offended by the discovery of a similar lack in the other. Expecting to find the answer, we find only the duplicate of our own problem.

You can't change anyone else but people do change in relationship to your change. All relationships are a system, and when any one part of a system changes, it affects the other part.

To begin with, I dined there on Monday, and once a week is quite enough to dine with one's own relations.

Everything can be linked together in some fashion, in either a physical, psychological, or symbolic manner.

No one acts or experiences in a vacuum.

Remember you don't do anything in isolation.

Every actor demands different things. Every human being you come in contact with in your life, you have to deal with in slightly different ways.

For me, the subject is of secondary importance: I want to convey what is alive between me and the subject.

If your neighbor's reality changes, yours will change as well.

We know others to the extent that we know ourselves.

Communication is mutual feeling with someone, not a didactic process of information.

When you meet someone, treat them as if they were in serious trouble, and you will be right more than half the time.

I've only recently realized that I have a radically different relationship with my parents than a lot of people.

One is never satisfied with the portrait of a person that one knows.

My father and I were never intimate in the sense of my coming to him with confidences or seeking advice. Our relationship was rather that of host and guest. Perhaps host and guest is really the happiest relation for father and son.

Over the years, however, the research evidence keeps piling up, and it points strongly to the conclusion that a high degree of empathy in a relationship is possibly the most potent and certainly one of the most potent factors in bringing about change and learning.

no one in a group of three is the same person he (she, it) is in a group of two. No more than he is the same in a group of two as he is alone.

People around me like me the best when I'm depressed because I'm a bit more passive.