psychological avoidance Quotes

People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.

Get through the moment. Avoid confrontation. Run away. That's pretty much how we get through our own lives, watching television. Smoking crap. Self-medicating. Redirecting our own attention. Jacking off. Denial.

We won't let ourselves feel our anger, rage, and pain. We push it down or anesthetize it through drugs, alcohol, shopping, or whatever we do in order not to feel it. When that memory and the associated feelings get lodged down there in our soul, the feelings are still there. They don't just magically go away. We have to give ourselves the opportunity to feel them.

So much of life [is] a putting-off of unhappiness for another time. Nothing [is] ever lost by delay.

Listen to me, Cammie. There are things in this life…in this world…There are things that you don’t want to remember.” - Rachel Morgan

..but maybe this was a defense mechanism. Maybe my mind was making me see things I refused to accept were gone forever. It was filling the void, because that was easier than letting go.

Most people cant' deal with reality, but indulge heavily in fantasy and fear.

Being a victim is more palatable than having to recognize the intrinsic contradictions of one's own governing philosophy.

A favorite means of escaping the solution to any problem is to declare it too complex for solution. This absolves us from attempting solution. ... Any problem is too complex to solve when we do not wish to accept the conditions of solution. Solution is possible where acceptance is ready.

The whole idea of death is something that we tend to kind of really not deal with at all.

The only thing which consoles for our miseries is diversion, and yet this is the greatest of our miseries. For it is this which principally hinders us from reflecting upon ourselves and which makes us imperceptibly ruin ourselves.

sometimes the best thing to do is to pretend it didn't happen

All the shitty stuff people do to themselves... it can all be the same thing, you know? Just a way to drown out your own voice. To kill your memories without having to kill yourself.

I am not aware, however, that patients suffering from traumatic neurosis are much occupied in their waking lives with memories of their accident. Perhaps they are more concerned with not thinking of it.

We as human beings do this thing where we stuff down our feelings until they find a way to manifest themselves. We try to avoid them until there's no more room and they come bubbling up like a pot of boiling-hot water that overflows. And when it does, it burns.

Think of him still as the same, I say, He is not dead, he is just - away.

Artistic anorexia & sexual avoidance have the same root fears – fear of intimacy, fear of exposure, fear of failure”.

It's like a fugue of evaded responsibility.

This tendency to avoid problems and the emotional suffering inherent in them is the primary basis of all human mental illness

I'd chosen instead to just change my route, go miles out of the way, as if avoiding it would make it go away once and for all.

The evasions of her little novel were exactly those of her life. Everything she did not wish to confront was also missing from her novella--and was necessary to it.

We compensate for what we don't do internally by projecting and allowing our minds to be marinated in chronic fantasy.