When we struggle to change ourselves we, in fact, only continue the patterns of self-judgement and aggression. We keep the war against ourselves alive.
Self-destructive patterns cause as much suffering as outer catastrophes.
I got a bad habit of creating.
You know how you get close to something you want and then you start doing things to ensure that you don't quite get it? I did a lot of that.
I've never responded well to entrenched negative thinking.
It's disturbing at my age to look at a young woman's destructive behaviour and hear the echoes of it, of one's own destructiveness in youth.
Sometimes when you've had a long series of disappointing things happen, you can get into the very bad habit of just expecting more of what you've already had.
... inherited collective mind-patterns ... have kept humans in bondage to suffering for eons.
The happiness of most people is not ruined by great catastrophes or fatal errors, but by the repetition of slowly destructive little things.
There's a tendency to fall into certain habits, but if you tell yourself not to do that and if you don't stay there too long - I think if you start staying for too long, you tend to fall into certain bad habits, and I tried not to do that.
All my life I've always spoiled the things that meant the most to me.
Yes, your family history has some sad chapters. But your history doesn't have to be your future. The generational garbage can stop here and now.
Damaged people gravitate towards damaged people.
I have a tendency to dip my foot in self-destructive behavior.
The past has no power over us. It doesn't matter how long we have had a negative pattern. The point of power is in the present moment. What a wonderful thing to realize! We can begin to be free in this moment!
Once someone has spent enough time cultivating bad habits and biding their time, they are much diminished. Much of what they could have been has dissipated.
If you want to know what you were conditioned to believe as a child, look at how you treat yourself now.
The circling horse was an oblique warning that i would repeat the same mistake eternally. Would the law of averages allow it? Can anything continue without change? Nothing else in nature behaves so consistently and rigidly as a human being in pursuit of hell.
Habit is the ballast that chains the dog to his vomit.
I don't want to be overdramatic about it, but I'm starting to see a lot of my bad habits get the best of me.
I didn't want to be one of those people that does something that blows up and keeps doing it for way too long.
New Year's resolutions often fail because toxic emotions and experiences from our past can sabotage us or keep us stuck with the same old thoughts, patterns and regrets.
It's been one of the most painful things I've ever been through in my whole life: trying to understand the degree to which behaviors that I thought were totally appropriate were destructive.
It's been said to me that I'm self-destructive because I'll walk away from things that are good.
We voluntary participate in things that we know are causing us harm because we believe we're powerless to do anything about it.
