I think one of the biggest misconceptions is that this is somehow a stranger who is carrying your child. And this is absolutely not true. Your surrogate becomes one of your best friends and a member of your family.
What's beautiful about the journey of surrogacy is that relationship you build with your surrogate, when it's done in places with good law. These aren't women you stop speaking to once your child is born, this is someone who's part of your family.
Knock on wood, but I think we hit the gestational carrier lottery!
For people who have fertility issues - and certainly gay men have fertility issues - there's several options for having a child and surrogacy was one of them.
It took three years from talking about it, to meeting with Wendie Wilson-Miller from 'Gifted Journeys' Surrogacy, to finding the right doctor, to doing the egg retrieval and finding the right surrogate.
We've gotten probably 40 women who have offered to be surrogates.
Surrogacy used to be difficult, because the woman that was carrying the child was biologically related to the child. And sometimes you can still do it that way, but you do not have to do it that way anymore.
We chose to use a surrogate as the way we wanted to start our family, particularly as I was traveling across the globe on a stressful schedule to get stores open.
