Healthy Communication Quotes

I worry that by losing my temper so much and being so harsh and yelling so much that, by example, I will have taught my daughters to be that way, and I'm now constantly telling them not to do that.

Some people can vent their anger, take a breath, and let it go, but I wasn't one of them.

I feel it's better to be loved and respected. If people fear you, you can get killed. If you're feared, nobody likes you. If you're feared nobody treats you the right way. You never get the right answers. You ask somebody if this is good, they'll tell you it's good even if it's bad. Nobody wants to be feared. You want to be respected.

In relations with others, one should express resentment and anger openly and straightforwardly. If one cannot express them openly and straightforwardly, the only thing to do is forget about them. To harbor grievances in one's heart, awaiting some later opportunity to give vent to them, is to act like a weak and petty man-in truth, it can only be called cowardice.

A conversation isn't a competition.

When a man can listen to a woman's feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift. He makes it safe for her to express herself. The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs.

To love well is the task in all meaningful relationships, not just romantic bonds.

Much of the work of midlife is to tell the difference between those who are dealing with their issues through you and those who are really dealing with you.

What better can parents and children give to each other than respectful, understanding attention.

All through life I've harbored anger rather than expressed it at the moment.

Most of us recognize how important it is to listen respectfully when our loved ones are talking; but we often forget that it is equally important to talk respectfully when they are listening.

We teach people how to treat us.

One of the biggest things growing up that my dad taught me is that if I was okay to talk about my feelings and express how I felt and not get angry, then he would listen to me. If I had issues, I would just tell him, 'Here's how I feel, this is what I'm feeling,' either with him or with my mom.

I think most people don't react well to being screamed at. It's counterproductive.

Happy relationships depend not on finding the right person, but on being the right person.

Happy families do have certain things in common. Today we finally have the knowledge to know what those things are.

I think maybe the key to having a long relationship is really appreciating that person's life and not trying to own it. It's like just stop trying. We all do it.

It's harder to write two people happy and in love than two people fighting and driving each other crazy.

Make sure you never, never argue at night. You just lose a good night's sleep, and you can't settle anything until morning anyway.

Badmouthing your ex-spouse rips the child apart

I can't believe I'm about to say this," I said. "So think real careful about where this is coming from. Have you people ever considered *talking* when you've got a problem?

Nobody's dumb in this relationship [with his wife] or in the relationships of any of the other guys in the band. But it's also not the cliché that those on the outside envision.

If you're using technology in a way that opens out conversation in your family, with your friends, with people you care about, I'm for that. But if you're using technology to silence the conversations with the people around you, then you have to create sacred spaces in your home, the kitchen, the dining room, the car.

I've had some pretty good arguments with people, but I've never regretted it. I've had people come up where it's all emotion and no fact. That's always sad.