I think it's important to have closure in any relationship that ends - from a romantic relationship to a friendship. You should always have a sense of clarity at the end and know why it began and why it ended. You need that in your life to move cleanly into your next phase.
Sometimes it's better to forgive and forget. And sometimes, on the other hand, it's better to leave the friendship.
Some things don't need to be cut back. They need to be cut off.
Are you in relationships with people who don't have your well-being at heart? Make a list of these, and consider what you can do to protect yourself from their toxic influence. Sometimes, setting better boundaries and practicing the tools of conscious communication can be transformative. In some cases, ending a relationship may be necessary.
Unfortunately, we are a society that does look down on divorce when, ironically, there are more single divorced people in the world right now. So, the fact of the matter is that it's a reality, and more people should obviously embrace wanting to change, wanting to move on from a relationship that just no longer works for them.
I sound awful saying it but I think it can be like that. I see a lot of people in unstimulating relationships. And not just boyfriend-girlfriend relationships. They find themselves in stagnant friendships. If people were a little less scared [of ending things] they'd get more out of life… You meet the right person at the right time and they fulfil a certain something in your life. You fulfil something in theirs. But there's a time limit to that. Unless you choose to be bloody good company for the rest of your life, do you know what I mean?
There's no greater power than the power of good-bye.
Do not keep on with a mockery of friendship after the substance is gone - but part, while you can part friends. Bury the carcass of friendship: it is not worth embalming.
And that's when I know it's over. As soon as you start thinking about the beginning, it's the end.
I think a lot of people are in relationships because they've been in them for a long time and they don't know how to end them.
Now I know who you are U got nothin' on me, I see I should've known it from the start You can't tell me lies Don't even try cuz This is goodbye Goodbye
I know it's hard to let go of people that have been with you forever. Sometimes it's time to call it a day.
Sometimes people can be guilty of not working at relationships and if it's not working, oof, that's it.
It’s so much easier to walk away than it is to have to explain to someone that you never want to see them again.
There's a trick to the Graceful Exit. It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, a relationship is over - and to let go. It means leaving what's over without denying its value.
It's awkward and silent as I wait for you to say, what I need to hear now, your sincere apology. When you mean it, I'll believe it, if you text it I'll delete, let's be clear. Oh, I'm not coming back, you're taking 7 steps here.
I do a lot of coaching with my friends on how to get out of relationships with their agents, boyfriends, contractors, whatever, because that's easy for me.
Closure isn't closure until someone's ready to close the door.
Just because a relationship ends, it doesn't mean it's not worth having.
I deserve to be happy and I think a lot of people stay in relationships for wrong reasons and instead of just looking at each other and just saying, 'you know, it's like sands of the hourglass, we learned our lessons, we can end in war or we can end in peace.'
It's one of the hardest things in the world to sustain a monogamous relationship for many years. People out there who have been with their partners for 30 years or more - I salute you. But it's just as hard to admit something isn't working and then try to manage a civilised separation as best as you can.
I think that there's etiquette for every means of communication. People are very judgmental and have strict rules. I don't think you should end a relationship with a Post-it note. I know some people who get offended when an e-mail is sent as a "thank you" note instead of a hand-written card.
Next to the pleasure of finding a new mistress is that of being rid of an old one.
I always tell people it's funny that they think I'm a relationship expert because my two books are about getting out of relationships.
Good bye, proud world! I'm going home; Thou art not my friend, and I'm not thine
