emotional conditioning Quotes

People would never fall in love if they hadn't heard love talked about.

Fear is always the result of an unquestioned past imagined as a future.

Hope should no more be a virtue than fear; we fear and we hope, according to what is promised or threatened us.

When my mother left me waiting for her, [she] established in me the habit of waiting and expectation which makes any present moment most significant for what it does not contain.

Each time you indulge in the emotion of anger or the behavior of yelling at a loved one, you reinforce the neural connection and increase the likelihood that you'll do it again.

It's difficult to admit to ourselves that we suffer. We feel humiliated, like we should have been able to control our pain. If someone else is suffering, we like to tuck them away, out of sight. It's a cruel, cruel conditioning. There is no controlling the unfolding of life.

Blind hate against the enemy creates a forceful impulse that cracks the boundaries of natural human limitations, transforming the soldier in an effective, selective and cold killing machine. A people without hate cannot triumph against the adversary.

Old habits are hard to forget, and old fears are habits.

After a while, the fear became a habit, too.

Love must be learned again and again... Hate needs no instruction, but waits only to be provoked.

The reason that you call it 'grief' is because you've been programmed to believe that you should feel bad about death.

when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it's very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced without pain.

The truth is that we can learn to condition our minds, bodies, and emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our behaviors.

Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.

The activity of the immature human being is simply played upon to secure habits which are useful. He is trained like an animal rather than educated like a human being. His instincts remain attached to their original objects of pain or pleasure. But to get happiness or to avoid the pain of failure he has to act in a way agreeable to others.

A large part of our attitude toward things is conditioned by opinions and emotions which we unconsciously absorb as children from our environment. In other words, it is tradition—besides inherited aptitudes and qualities—which makes us what we are. We but rarely reflect how relatively small as compared with the powerful influence of tradition is the influence of our conscious thought upon our conduct and convictions.

intelligence is intuitive you needn't learn to love unless you've been taught to fear and hate

You get these fear memories that are hard to undo.

I've learned that I can still be loved if I perform well, and I learned that from the broken brilliance of Matt Hardy.

The wounded child inside many females is a girl who was taught from early childhood on that she must become something other than herself, deny her true feelings, in order to attract and please others.

As we have seen there is some kind of continuity in any case since every experience affects for better or worse the attitudes which help decide the quality of further experiences, by setting up certain preference and aversion, and making it easier or harder to act for this or that end.

If you get angry easily, it may be because the seed of anger in you has been watered frequently over many years, and unfortunately you have allowed it or even encouraged it to be watered.

Every angry thought makes it a little easier to get angry the next time, and a little more likely.

I told you: you can make yourself love anybody.

It pisses me off to think we're conditioned to push away bad feelings and think anything that's uncomfortable is to be avoided. When things are really bad nowadays, I recognize the value in it because it's me filling my quota- it's going to make my joy more intense later.