Emotional Agency Quotes

Nothing in the outer world makes you feel any way. You decide what you want to feel, and then use outer people and events as permission slips to execute your feeling agenda.

To believe that your husband, wife, parents, kids, boss, job, bank account, or body is even partly responsible for your emotions, to think that there are bullets 'out there' that you have to contend with, that there are stressful life events to overcome, is to miss something vital.

No one can make us angry. It is our choice.

Feelings are determined by how one chooses to respond to various situations and events.

I don't worry about stress. I create it.

Having feelings doesn't mean you have to have sex.

Hurt feelings or discomfort of any kind cannot be cause by another person. No one outside me can hurt me. That’s not a possibility. It’s only when I believe a stressful thought that I get hurt. And I’m the one who’s hurting me by believing what I think. This is very good news, because it means that I don’t have to get someone else to stop hurting me. I’m the one who can stop hurting me. It’s within my power.

To begin by always thinking of love as an action rather than a feeling is one way in which anyone using the word in this manner automatically assumes accountability and responsibility.

It's always better to be the dumper than the dumpee.

Emotion is something that you don't simply receive. Emotion is compelled. Other than that, we're just shells until we're possessed or reanimated from time to time by different emotions.

When women want things to get more serious they can come across like relationship saleswomen but a man wants to think his own mind took him there.

The bottom line is that you are the one who is creating your life the way it is. The life you currently live is the result of all your past thoughts and actions. You are in charge of your current thoughts and your present feelings.

It is therefore senseless to think of complaining since nothing foreign has decided what we feel, what we live, or what we are.

We eventually learn that emotional closure is our own action. We can be responsible for it. In any moment, we can choose to open or to close.

I don't want to be fighting when I don't want to fight.

In terms of showing their emotions and acting on them, my women characters are a lot more advanced than the men.

She was incapable of love for any object not of her own choice and she resented anyone's demand for it.

As you age, you start to realize that your emotions are in your hands and not someone else's. Once you put them in someone else's hands, that's when you give them the power, and you can't change it. Only they can change it.

I'm not saying that a child who was abused or beaten or abandoned made that happen, but your reaction to it is always yours.