If I'm brought the wrong order at a restaurant, I don't send it back, because I don't want the waiter to get mad at me.
People who are prone to anxiety are nearly always people-pleasers who fear conflict and negative feelings like anger. When you feel upset, you sweep your problems under the rug because you don't want to upset anyone. You do this so quickly and automatically that you're not even aware you're doing it.
… most Taiwanese people wish to maintain a peaceful relationship with the mainland, not because they embrace a Chinese identity, but because of their fear of turbulence that would result from cross‐strait conflict.
I avoid conflict - like, any conflict - at all costs. I hate it. Even at a restaurant, if I get the wrong order, I'll just eat it anyway because I don't want to make an issue.
Typically, I would run away from conflict and write about it - that was easier than staying and dealing face-to-face with humans; that's terrifying for me.
I'm not a confrontational person in real life, so I really don't wanna get into arguments or fistfights with people I'm making fun of.
I don't like upsetting people.
The more we run from conflict, the more it masters us; the more we try to avoid it, the more it controls us; the less we fear conflict, the less it confuses us; the less we deny our differences, the less they divide us.
I'm too frightened of confrontation, so I will always tip - even if the service has been really shoddy.
