Emotions are the end result, the sum, of things learned
Our bodies change our minds and our minds can change our behavior and our behavior can change our outcomes.
Thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to actions. Action leads to results.
I'm sure I tried being mean at one point, and I don't think it worked. It's too much work.
Behavior is the outcome of the battle among internal systems.
Your beliefs about yourself and your world create your expectations. Your expectations determine your attitude. Your attitude determines your behavior and the way you relate to other people. And the way you behave toward and relate to other people determines how they relate to and behave toward you.
I was not a beater of children and as a consequence I've always been, I think, very agreeable and co-operative.
When you choose a habit, you also choose the end of that habit.
It is the function of parents to see that their children habitually experience the true consequences of their conduct.