Deborah Tannen Quotes

I don't think men try to make women be like them, but I think women try to make men be like them, a lot.

Obviously I've spent most of my working life with men and they have this way of operating which seems a bit alien to me.

The difference between men and women seems to be this: I can argue with my promoter downstairs, accuse him of ripping me off, and 20 minutes later we'll be playing golf together. With a lady, the same argument can go on for, like, years.

I think the fallacy is to think that Women's Liberation meant that men and women would become interchangeable. That has not happened, and most men and women would not want it to happen.

I've come to learn that there is a real difference between men and women. It's genetic.

Little girls as children, I think, are expected to behave better. If a boy's naughty at school, he's a little bit cheeky and mischievous. If a girl's naughty, she's trouble.

Because if you say men and women are the same and if male behaviour is the norm, and women are always expected to act like men, we will never be as good at being men as men are.

In the end, I do think it's insulting to men and women to insist that they fit a certain profile. I never understood that.

What these books have conclusively proven is that the diffence between men and women is exactly 38 pages.

Many differences are rooted in biology and reinforced through culture, so it's important to acknowledge that. Because if you say men and women are the same and if male behaviour is the norm, and women are always expected to act like men, we will never be as good at being men as men are.

Call it nature or nurture, there are differences in how men and women approach professional conduct, and facing these issues head-on will make us all more equipped to succeed.

Men and women, women and men. It will never work.

I don't believe for a minute that women really want to be understood by men.

Men and women belong to different species and communications between them is still in its infancy.

Over the years, the most ponderous problem for women has been that men think that men and women are very different. Another of our massive problems is that women also think that men and women are very different.

Something that always fascinated me was the psychology and the psychology differences between men and women and how we relate to one another.

You've got to remember that men are men and women are women. And although a lot of similarities, there are some real differences.

There are complications in relationships between men and women. There always will be.

It might seem at first surprising that when I studied women and men talking at work, I found that women 'interrupted' each other more often than men did - when they were in all-women conversations.

A lot of times in life, women want to talk, but men don't want to listen, and if they do want to listen, they turn it back to themselves.

Men and women are different: we have different tendencies, skills, and behaviors. This should be accepted and fostered, not demonized. Because the end result is simply more effeminate men and more masculine women. Who wants that?

Men and women are different, and they can never read each other's mind.

It's a tough thing to work with two different genders. You've gotta learn how to talk to women and talk to guys.

I'm not sure I'm going to say that women and men are exactly the same. I think we may have different ways of approaching things, different sensitivities, and women are often better than men at picking up emotional cues.

Men and women study things differently, and it's not because of our chromosomes. It's a product of our cultural conditioning.