Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

Love is what you are, not what you give or get!

Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form.

We don't know love like we should. We always talk about 'I have unconditional love' unconditional love is... we don't even know it. Because if a person stops stimulating us, we stop loving them. You're not interesting to talk to anymore, goodbye. But that real love, that love that sometimes is difficult, difficult to have. That's that love. And that's a confidence builder.

A man who loves himself takes the first step towards real love.

What matters is real love for things of the world outside us and for the deep secrets within us.

Love is not a relationship, love is a state of being; it has nothing to do with anybody else. One is not "in love", one is love. And of course when one is love, one is in love – but that is an outcome, a by-product, that is not the source. The source is that one is love.

When you come from 'love,' you do certain things because you are love, not because you want to have love.

True love means you love the real person, not an ideal that you have in your head and superimpose over them. That's illusion and lies to me.

In every woman's life there is one real and consuming love. But very few women guess which one it is.

Love can only be found through the act of loving.

Real love cannot be deceived because it wants nothing outside of itself

Because a real kiss, a kiss that two real people choose to give each other - it's something that can't be filmed or photographed or drawn, or even described with words. Because a kiss isn't what it looks like or how it feels. A real kiss happens down deep inside of two hearts at the same time. It's hidden away. A real kiss is invisible.

Love, being in love, isn’t a constant thing. It doesn’t always flow at the same strength. It’s not always like a river in flood. It’s more like the sea. It has tides, it ebbs and flows. The thing is, when love is real, whether it’s ebbing or flowing, it’s always there, it never goes away. And that’s the only proof you can have that it is real, and not just a crush or an infatuation or a passing fancy

You can't love anyone or anything until you love your own existence first. Love can only grow out of a respect for your own life.

But what love got to do with it when you don't love yourself ?

True love is rare, and it's the only thing that gives life real meaning.

Mindful time spent with the person we love is the fullest expression of true love and real generosity.

If you have reasons to love someone, you don’t love them.

What happens most deeply inside you is worthy of your whole love.

True love isn't reserved for weddings and ceremonies. It's from the heart. That's all it has to be. All it ever is.

I have heard what poets write about women. They rhyme and rhapsodize and lie. I have watched sailors on the shore stare mutely at the slow-rolling swell of the sea. I have watched old soldiers with hearts like leather grow teary-eyed at their king's colors stretched against the wind. Listen to me: these men know nothing of love. You will not find it in the words of poets or the longing eyes of sailors. If you want to know of love, look to a trouper's hands as he makes his music. A trouper knows.

Everyone is always looking for their beloved. Well, why can't you be your own beloved? Fall in love with yourself.

Trust isn't something that's spoken and love's never wrong when it's real.

Through true love, you touch inner completeness.

In our imaginations we believe that love is apart from us. Actually there is nothing but love, once we are ready to accept it. When you truly find love, you find yourself