Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

I wrote 'Road Less Traveled' to make myself feel better and process what I was going through.

When you enter a new experience, all that requires healing rushes to the surface . . . You have to pause.

If I can forgive the attachment in myself and open to the vulnerability that's underneath it, then rather than fixating on another person to satisfy my need, I'm actually going right to where the needs come from and able to bring a real healing.

It's pretty intense writing about my own life, my own struggles.

Acting's not therapy, but it can be therapeutic.

It's hard to be clear about who you are when you are carrying around a bunch of baggage from the past. I've learned to let go and move more quickly into the next place.

Don't let your wounds make you become someone you're not.

Writing about feeling disconnected has enabled me to connect, and that has been the most lovely thing of all.

A lot of people say they want to get out of pain, and I'm sure that's true, but they aren't willing to make healing a high priority. They aren't willing to look inside to see the source of their pain in order to deal with it.

'One Tree Hill' really had an impact on my life. It was the first time I left my house and my family in New York and went to a small town in North Carolina. It was the most incredible experience for me.

I caught up on a lot of just domestic normal everyday stuff, and grew up a lot, and went to therapy, and did a lot of contemplating and figuring things out. I needed to just strip everything away and figure out who I am and get to know myself, as cheesy as that sounds.

In retrospect, I'm grateful for the break-up of my marriage because it forced me to deal with all the buried issues I probably wouldn't have otherwise faced. I'm a better, kinder, happier person today because of the spiritual and emotional growth I've experienced.

Though all afflictions are evils in themselves, yet they are good for us, because they discover to us our disease and tend to our cure.

Through therapy and a lot of thinking and writing my memoirs, I've been able to use my life as a lesson.

There have been times in my life when I felt compelled to write things down as a matter of therapy, but whatever I kept about those days, I shredded. It was too personal.

I want to investigate what scares me and worries me.

I realized that I had screwed up my life living different parts of my life in different places. I wasn't whole. I wasn't integrated. I wasn't a complete person. And after that, came out, spent some time at a psychiatric hospital.

It's kind of chased away a few demons for me and, um, it's educated me a little bit more.

Man, you don't know how I felt that afternoon when I heard that voice and it was my own voice.

It's something that I had been pushing down my whole life. The search for meaning, I guess, the whispering of the soul.

When you go through really hard times, you really figure out who you are, how you respond to things, and how things affect you.

I stumbled onto the best profession to heal my childhood: the only one that lets you release and express whatever is ugly and messy and beautiful about your life. We're in the business of creating human beings. The more we spew, and the more honestly we do it, the better. Try that on Wall Street.

You've got to express yourself in life, and it's better out than in. What you reveal, you heal.

I think I learned to overcome some things in life through dance.

I've been writing books because it's been my way of dealing with the demons. The act of sitting down and writing the books down has started healing process that's been long overdue.