Emily Giffin Quotes

No matter how far you take it with your friends, whether you're fighting with them or you hate them for two months, you just really need them, because they're the ones who teach you the most about yourself.

Their friendship was more important than any relationship. Guys would come and go; girlfriends were forever.

Love had surely made us all and hate would surely make us fall.

You should never be in the company of anyone with whom you would not want to die.

The better part of one's life consists of his friendships.

Women fall in love when they get to know you. Men are just the opposite. When they finally know you they're ready to leave

It's a total lie to say there's only one person you're going to be with for the rest of your life. If you're lucky - and if you try really hard - there will always be more than one.

Because even if the whole world was throwing rocks at you, if you still had your mother or father at your back, you'd be okay.

All relationships have the same basic components: people, needs, and expectations.

Love is the invention of a few high cultures ... it is cultural artifact. To make love the requirement of a lifelong marriage is exceedingly difficult, and only a few people can achieve it. I don't believe in setting universal standards that a large proportion of people can't reach.

The only time that love is an easy game is when two other people are playing it.

when you fall in love, you must fall in love with a man the way he is now, because marriage won't change anything, except maybe your tax deduction.

Relations are errors that Nature makes. / Your spouse you can put on the shelf. / But your friends, dear friends, are the quaint mistakes / You always commit yourself.

I always believe in earning love. I consider unconditional love to be one of the worst ideas developed

She wasn't, nor ever had been, under the illusion that marriage was a relationship characterized by endless bliss and romance. Throw any two people together, add the inevitable ups and downs, give the mixture a vigorous stir, and a few stormy arguments were inevitable, no matter how the couple loved each other.

Love receives its death-wound from aversion, and forgetfulness buries it.

Friendship is like earthenware, once broken, it can be mended; love is like a mirror, once broken that ends it.

Love with its paraphernalia of sexuality, jealousy, nostalgia and exaltation was easier to reognize than friendship, which seemed to have (excepting athletic equipment) no paraphernalia at all.

No one is more conventional than a woman who is falling out of love.

Safe men are for marrying. Dangerous men are for pleasure.

People don't have an ongoing relation unless it's a form of debt because everything is an exchange, so ongoing relationships are incomplete exchanges, and therefore one party is probably to blame - more likely than not, both are. Sociality itself seems to become like a matter of sin, and inherently wrong.

Could you really love someone who was capable of falling in love with somebody else?

If you're dating a man who you think might be "Mr. Right," if he a) got older, b) got a new job, or c) visited a psychiatrist, you are in for a nasty surprise. The cocoon-to-butterfly theory only works on cocoons and butterflies.

My personal feelings on marriage? Samuel Johnson once said that second marriages - although I could probably say this about any marriage - are about the triumph of hope over experience. I think that's true. I don't know that human beings were meant to mate for life or be monogamous. But, for me, the aspect of marriage that is troubling is that it's a contract that is governed by the state, and I don't want the state to have control over my personal affairs.

Never fall in love with an idea. They're whores: if the one you're with isn't doing the job, there's always, always, always another.