Tara Stiles Quotes

Real change isn't found in some new way to think about yourself, but in freedom from the need to think about yourself at all.

We need the compassion and the courage to change the conditions that support our suffering. Those conditions are things like ignorance, bitterness, negligence, clinging, and holding on.

The bird of paradise alights only upon the hand that does not grasp.

I keep my hands empty for the sake of what I have had in them.

Control is not real, and I'm really understanding that every day. It's about the acceptance of relinquishing control that makes it powerful for you.

I think you have to let go of this idea that you can be precious about everything, and let it be the abstract mess that it is.

As long as I focus on what I feel and don't worry about where I'm going, it works out. Having no expectations but being open to everything is what makes wonderful things happen. If I don't worry, there's no obstruction and life flows easily. It sounds impractical, but 'Expect nothing; be open to everything' is really all it is.

Being deeply contented with God in my everyday life is a focused attitude. It is always available. It means practicing letting go of my obsession with how I'm doing. It means training myself to learn to actually be present with people, and seeking to love them.

We come to meditation to learn how not to act out the habitual tendencies we generally live by - those actions that create suffering for ourselves and others, and get us into so much trouble.

When you relinquish the desire to control your future, you can have more happiness.

The higher one climbs on the spiritual ladder, the more they will grant others their own freedom, and give less interference to another's state of consciousness.

Complete possession is proved only by giving. All you are unable to give possesses you.

When you stop thinking about yourself all the time, a certain sense of repose overtakes you.

There's a victory in letting go of your expectations.

There are so many surprises in my life; I don't take anything for granted. I enjoy every experience that comes; I don't think too far ahead.

Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it.

I'm in a space of surrendering and being open and seeing. It's a good place to be - the only place to be.

One of the things I noticed in my career that gave me a lot of happiness early on was realising we don't have any control.

I think there comes a time when you start dropping expectations. Because the world doesn't owe you anything, and you don't owe the world anything in return. Things, feelings, are a very simple transaction. If you get it, be grateful. If you don't, be alright with it.

To surrender your ego, you have to have one first.

Everybody is going to have their own issues that they bring to the table, but for me, the best thing is just giving over to whatever is there and trusting whatever is there and enjoying it.

Peace of mind comes from not wanting to change other, but by simply accepting them as they are. True acceptance is always without demands and expectations.

When you stay present with your children, that’s where abundance is. And when you stay out of their business, that’s where everything you deserve in life is. When you’re in presence, there’s no story, and you are abundance. And you come to trust that space so often that you just eventually hang out as that, because there is nothing that can move you out of it, not even a perceived child or a perceived anything.

Gratitude helps us stop trying to control outcomes. It is the key that unlocks positive energy in our life. It is the alchemy that turns problems into blessings, and the unexpected into gifts.

I let go of all expectations. People, places and things are free to be themselves, and I am free to be me.