Sarah Dessen Quotes

There's nothing harder than defining oneself.

I think people who struggle to define themselves might never be satisfied because there is no definition. Living with responsibility is important, but I don't really think you have to grow up.

Carving out an identity for yourself is important so I'm trying to do that as well.

I think that we're all continually searching for who we are, and that's ever-evolving and changing.

I know for myself, and maybe I'm weird or whatever, but the whole thing is about constantly redefining identity.

My whole life has been a search for finding myself, pretty much.

Some people want to define themselves, and they should, as it's part of their identity. For me personally, I've never really had a label for myself.

I don't even know who I am. All I know is that I am the sibling, daughter, sister, the friend of somebody, and I need to know who I am outside of that.

The search for a personal identity is the life task of a teenager.

The first question in any interactive process with another is: now Who Am I, and Who Do I Want to Be, in relationship to that?

it takes a lot of rehearsal to become yourself.

Meg, when people don't know who they are, they are open either to being Xed, or Named

This wasn't the person he'd thought he was, or would have chosen to be if he'd been free to choose, but there was something comforting and liberating about being an actual definite someone, rather than a collection of contradictory potential someones.

I feel I've always been writing about self-identity. How do we become who we are? So I'm just writing from experience what's concerned me.

Everything we know by heart enriches us and helps us find ourselves. If it should get in the way of finding ourselves, it is because we have no personality.

I needed to be myself and find my own identity.

I make me. At 18, I decided I wasn't going to have an unconstructed self ever. I was going to be the composer, the designer, the architect of me. It's been really fun.

The ultimate mystery is one's own self.

I have always felt that I am the sum total of my parts.

The ultimate aim of the ego is not to see something, but to be something.

I define myself by everything that I love, everything I can create, everything that I can imagine.

You'll always end up filling out a character. It might be with aspects of yourself.

I have struggled with identity all my life. It's not like something that just happened last week.

Part of the reason that I moved to Los Angeles is that even though my mom introduced me to all kinds of music, I really wanted to work on having my own identify, on being who I am and doing what I do, and seeing how people responded.

I think that people just have this core desire to express who they are. And I think that's always existed.